There is a big difference from simply being A-man-in-A-house vs THE Man of THE House.

Usually guys try to oversimplify what this means by spouting off some stereotypical expectations like "the man is the [financial provider, decision maker, protector, disciplinarian]" etc.

I'm not saying this is WRONG..

However, I've seen enough scenarios where the man is more nurturing and emotionally intelligent and the woman is better with money or disciplining the children.

Because of this, I cannot tie any specific set of responsibilities to being The Man of The House… except one:

The Man must consciously control the ENERGY of the House.

I don't know one household in the world where a man can fail in this aspect and still be "The Man".

So for example, a man who is regularly:

Lashing out in anger

Tuning out despondently

Ignoring upsets and problems

Spiraling emotionally or complaining in the face of issues

Generally being an emotionally reactive sod

... is not The Man.

If your presence is not felt at all, you're not The Man, you're a man.

If your presence is felt, but it leaves only a negative impact, then you're not The Man, you're a problem.

If your family regularly has to roll their eyes, cower in fear, or change your emotional diaper when you get triggered, then you are definitely not The Man.

If you grew up in a household where this was the dynamic... I'm sure you loathed it.

The Man decides what is the best energy to serve his family, and then models it.

If the family needs calm, he is calm.

If the family needs hope, he is hopeful.

If the family needs strength, he is strong.

If the family needs action, he is ready to throw everyone on his back and carry them if need be..

If the family needs someone to roll up their sleeves and address some mess, he's already elbow deep in it.

But perhaps most importantly, the family ALWAYS needs joy and love and so he strains every fiber of his being to deliver.

The catch though is that The Man must master himself enough to  be able to do this...

Do not settle to simply be "a man".

The world needs you to be THE MAN.

UYAP! (Unleash Your Apex Potential)

Mark Queppet

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