Hello Empowered Wayers:

I wrote the following article on October 18, 2018. When I reread it seven years later, in 2025, I noticed that the advice still applies. The strong emotions fueling so much of the chaos in the world is even more amplified and magnified now than seven years ago.

You can be the one to change it. It all starts with you.

When you choose to become present and step away from being right, your timeline shifts. Your thoughts, words, and actions are no longer fueled by anger or hatred. Instead, your presence is connected to Source and you see the world through new eyes.

Please read the article and let me know if you agree. Then use the techniques described to become centered, calm, and present.

Together, we can change the trajectory of our world when we are the one to change.

The article from 2018 still applies today

There is so much pain being expressed in the world. All of the angry words, shouting and demonstrating against something or someone seems to have reached a crescendo.

What is going on? Why have we lost our minds and fallen into terrorist behavior that threatens, bullies and confronts? Look behind any of the #movements and you will discover strong emotions fueling the rocket of change.

A valid question to ask : is the rocket going anywhere? Or is it just an explosion in the cultural mindset that connects people with the same strong emotions?

It feels as if we are more separated, alone in our silos of conviction that we are right and everyone else is wrong.

The logical conclusion to this approach is continued divisiveness, separation and “otherness.” Everyone is a victim of something…and nothing is accomplished. Any changes only come after much angst and energy has been spent, creating a victory but extending the war against “the others.”

[Update for 2025: the war has ignited violence, mass murders, and political assassinations. Don’t you feel that we have reached the brink of insanity?]

There is another way.

The Mindfulness Secret

When you feel yourself being triggered by something you read or heard, take a moment to check into your body. Notice if you are experiencing any of these physical reactions:

* elevated heartbeat;

* short, faster breaths; or

* heat spreading through your body;

Your body is communicating to you that it senses a threat. It could be mental or emotional, but your body has gone into the flight or fight response. Adrenaline is pouring through your veins, making you feel powerful and indestructible.

There is another effect of this survival reaction. Your ability to access the logical and reasoned part of your brain is momentarily disconnected. The oldest part of your brain takes over, the “lizard” brain. Choices made from the lizard brain do not create loving actions or acceptance of others. Instead, the only choices are to fight or flee.

In today’s world, the anger, chaos, violence, and destruction of meaningful conversations are fueled by the lizard brain.

Mindfulness enters the scene when you recognize that your flight or fight response has been triggered. Instead of giving your lizard brain the controls to the rocket, take a moment to understand what your body is telling you.

How? Step away from the trigger.

If you read something online that made your blood boil, look away and breathe deeply. If it is a person who caused your angst, pretend you just received a text message, look at your phone, and breathe deeply. The point is to momentarily distract yourself to allow time and space for your body’s response to recede.

Next, allow these emotions and your physical reaction to lessen BEFORE you share your thoughts, comments or reaction. Sharing words and actions from the lizard brain only adds fuel to the fire.

Finally, notice the difference it makes when you chose a mindful response. Instead of confrontation, can you see the issue from a new perspective? How did you feel after you shared or hit send? Better or worse?

After being mindful for a few times, notice the consequences to other people. Did your choice to respond and not react have an impact on them? Is there a softening in your relationships that allows for more acceptance of a different viewpoint or opinion? Were you able to find common ground that you could both agree to?

Conclusion

The end result of reaction (from the lizard brain) versus response (from your logical, reasoned mind) are predictable.

Lizard Reaction: You are stupid and wrong if you don’t agree with me. Result: Separation, unbending conviction, and damaged relationships.

Mindful Response: I see your point and I agree with parts of it. Result: Connection, creative solutions, peaceful conversations.

The question to ask yourself is this: “Do I want to be right or at peace?”

Living from your lizard brain is exhausting, debilitating and frustrating. It doesn’t build anyone up — instead, it tears down anyone who disagrees with you. Your lizard brain only wants to be right, and it will go to extremes to prove its rightness.

The cost is your sense of peace, your security in the world and your well-being.

Cultivate your mindful response muscle and you will be more thoughtful in your interactions. Open minded discussions can be shared, and you will learn something from the other person’s point of view.

Many blessings,

Kathryn

P.S. Another way to regain your sense of peace is to practice making different choices. Listen to the short meditation, “Step Left and Choose Again” and notice if you remember that you always have a choice. Be sure to follow me on Insight Timer!

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