As a divorced parent, I carried the weight of missed birthdays and broken holidays. But I’ve learned not to live in the guilt of what I lost. I pour everything into the moments I do get—one call, one hug, one laugh. Kids don’t need perfect. They need you present.

Why it’s important:

In Earned, Not Given, I share how guilt nearly broke me, until I realized presence matters more than perfection. Parents struggling with divorce or co-parenting need this reminder: even small, consistent moments build trust and love. That’s what kids remember.

📖 Earned, Not Given is coming soon.

Discover the heartfelt stories of John Rinaldo—author of Remi’s Journey, Rediscovering Vancouver, and Dancing Letters. Each book inspires hope, healing, and wonder. Available now on Amazon.

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