The Monique Dolman Show

Chemistry can feel like the ultimate green light in dating, but it’s only one piece of the picture. 

In this episode, Monique explores why knowing who you are and what you truly want allows you to slow down, zoom out and assess compatibility beyond the initial spark.

A must-listen for women who want to date more intentionally, trust themselves deeply and stop mistaking intense chemistry for genuine compatibility.

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Monique is engaged! 💍 

In this personal episode, she reflects on finding her person, more than a decade of love with Nathan, and what her journey has taught her about dating, self-trust and building a lasting relationship without losing yourself along the way.

A must-listen for any woman navigating dating, love or relationships who wants an honest perspective on what finding and building lasting love can really look like.

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There's a pattern Monique keeps seeing in the Coaching Industry and she thinks more people need to be aware of it.

In this episode, Monique shares her honest perspective on what she's noticed after being in the Coaching Industry for he past 7 years.  She shares why she thinks it matters and how it can potentially influence your experience as a client. 

She also explores what great coaching looks like and the questions to ask so you can make more intentional decisions about where you invest your time, money and trust. 

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If your inner mean girl is constantly telling you your'e not good enough, second guessing your decisions, or convincing you to play small, this episode is for you.

In this episode, Monique shares the simple mindset technique that she uses to stop identifying with negative thoughts as facts and to start responding to them instead. 

You will learn how to break free from the cycle of letting self criticism run your life, to stop feeling like a victim of your own mind and to make taking action feel lighter, easier and a whole lot more fun. 

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Self-doubt doesn't just affect your confidence - it shapes your entire life. 

In this episode, Monique unpacks the real cost women pay everyday when they continue to question themselves on repeat. From the opportunities they don't take, to the relationships they settles for, the conversations they avoid and the career moves they miss, self doubt is costing far more than most women want to admit.

This episode is an invitation to have a honest conversation with yourself, uncover what self-doubt has truely been costing you and decide whether you're ready to choose something different. 

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Your time is your most value currency. 

The question is: Where is it really going? and are those investments completely within your control alone?

In this episode, Monique explores why the greatest return you'll ever receive comes from investing in yourself. Unlike money invested into markets, assets or vintage bags the time, energy and resources you put into your own growth compound for life. 

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If you’re in your late 20s or early 30s feeling lost, behind, confused, or like you don’t recognise yourself anymore, this episode is for you.

Because what if you’re not actually lost?

What if the life, identity, relationships, and goals that once fit no longer do… and you’re standing in the messy middle between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming?

In this episode, I’m sharing why this season isn’t a crisis to fix. It’s a transition to move through.

And why this uncomfortable, uncertain chapter might actually be one of the most important seasons of your life.

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If you’re constantly overthinking, looking for reassurance, or wondering why confidence feels so hard to hold onto, this episode is for you.

I’m sharing the 10 things I’d do if I was starting my self-trust journey from scratch.

These are the lessons I’ve learned through years of personal development, plenty of mistakes, and more than $70,000 invested into figuring out what actually creates lasting change.

The 10 things that genuinely helped me trust myself more, speak up sooner, and stop handing my power away.

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Most people think their problem is the problem.
 But often, the real issue is the protection the pattern gives them.

In this episode, Monique dives into the psychology of secondary gain — the unconscious emotional payoff behind self-sabotage, overthinking, procrastination, people pleasing, perfectionism, and staying stuck in familiar patterns.

We unpack:

• why change can feel threatening to the nervous system
• how familiar pain often feels safer than unfamiliar growth
• the hidden ways people protect themselves from rejection, failure, pressure, and vulnerability
• and why taking responsibility for your life is one of the most empowered things you can do

You’ll walk away with powerful reflection questions to help you uncover your own secondary gain, understand what’s really keeping you stuck, and start shifting from self-protection into self-leadership.

Plus, message Monique on Instagram for the bonus freebie on how to turn your secondary gain into something productive instead of self-sabotaging.

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Most people think confident people are just “better” at change.
 But that’s not actually true.

In this episode, we unpack the real reason change destroys some people while it expands others — and what’s actually happening underneath the fear, overthinking, resistance, and self-sabotage that so many women experience during change.

Monique shares her own experiences navigating massive identity shifts across business, relationships, leadership, confidence, and life… including the fears and insecurities that came with them.

We dive into:

• why your nervous system resists change
• the deeper fear underneath uncertainty
• how identity attachment keeps people stuck
• why self-trust matters more than confidence
• and how to stop sabotaging the next version of yourself

You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of change at a psychological level, practical reflection questions to help you gain clarity, and tangible ways to build evidence that you can trust yourself through the unknown.

Because the goal isn’t to avoid fear.
It’s to become someone who can move with it.

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