The Motherload Podcast

What does a new mom actually need? Hint: it’s not another onesie.

Part 2 dives deeper into postpartum depression and the people who notice when you go quiet. Andrea and Gillian share their experiences, including how two long-distance friends flew in and turned a dinner into the moment everything changed, and opening up about the pediatrician who listened without judgment. 

Plus, the care package every new mom should get, and why “How’s the baby?” is the wrong question.

Now, about partners: Getting to know your guy while pregnant, resenting his “work” hotel stays, and why dads go through their own postpartum shift too. The fix? Admitting you’re both in survival mode and surviving it together.

If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text the National Maternal Mental Health Hotline at 1-833-852-6262, or call or text 988.

Chapters:

0:00 Why It's So Hard to Admit You're Struggling

0:42 Ask "How's Mom?" Not "How's the Baby?"

1:09 The Friend Who Showed Up With a Care Package

3:39 The Baby Shower Gift Just for Mom

5:20 When You Don't Have a Village

6:22 Red Flags: When a Friend Goes Quiet

7:11 Postpartum Depression That Shows Up Later

8:01 The Dinner That Became an Intervention

10:28 Grief, Recovery & Friends Who Check In Daily

12:18 The Pediatrician Who Didn't Judge

13:45 The Stigma That Keeps Moms Silent

15:38 Never Wanting to Be a Burden

18:13 Building a No-Judgment Community

20:00 How Postpartum Changes Your Relationship

20:35 Getting to Know Your Partner While Pregnant

23:49 Two Kids, Two Totally Different Postpartums

26:09 Work Trips, Resentment & Survival Mode

28:30 Dads Go Through Postpartum Too

30:01 Asking for Help Without Coming in Hot

32:19 Bath Time, Bedtime & Splitting the Load

#TheMotherload #PostpartumDepression #MaternalMentalHealth #MomPodcast #PostpartumSupport #NewMom #MomFriends #MotherhoodUnfiltered #ItTakesAVillage #MarriageAfterBaby #DadsMatter #MomLife

Ever walked out the door and realized halfway down the block that you forgot something major? One mom forgot her pants, wore her Frida postpartum undies on camera, and went viral. Same, girl.

This week, Andrea and Gillian swap their most unhinged postpartum moments: rage, 3am insomnia, nightmares, and leaving the car running outside a restaurant for an hour. They call out bounce-back culture and the influencers posting “two weeks postpartum” abs. They also make a guilt-free case for formula, because a sane mom beats a perfect one.

A story about a teenage surgery shows how often women’s pain gets brushed off. The conversation turns to the Clancy mistrial, postpartum mental health, and how to check on a struggling mom with more than a text that says “how are you?”

If you’ve ever cried over a pump, survived a colicky baby, or been told you’re “just being dramatic,” pull up a chair.

Chapters: 

0:00 Cold Open: The Frida Panties Walk

0:49 The Most Absurd Thing You Did Postpartum

1:30 Postpartum Rage, Insomnia & Nightmares

3:10 Why the Newborn Months Are a Blur

3:48 Colic, Reflux & Just Riding It Out

4:32 Breastfeeding vs. Formula: Choosing Your Sanity

6:15 Mom Brain Moments: The Car Left Running

7:39 Bounce-Back Culture & Filtered Mom Influencers

9:49 The Viral Postpartum Walk Video

11:41 Kids Are Professional Gaslighters

13:47 Birth Stories & the Bond That Came Later

15:09 A Uterus Surgery at 15

19:30 What a Normal Period Actually Looks Like

21:48 Trad Wives & What Real Masculinity Looks Like

23:08 The Clancy Mistrial & Postpartum Mental Health

27:31 How to Really Check On a Struggling Mom

#TheMotherload #MomPodcast #Postpartum #PostpartumDepression #MomBrain #MotherhoodUnfiltered #FormulaFeeding #PostpartumMentalHealth #WomensHealth #MomLife #RealMotherhood #MaternalMentalHealth

How old were you on 9/11? If your date remembers it vividly, and you weren’t even born yet…. Cue the Uber.

This week the ladies get honest about toxic relationships and the red flags they ignored. Andrea opens up for the first time about her secret courthouse wedding at 18, the ex who resurfaced years later (to steal her identity?? TBD), and the hard choice that led her to the life she has now. 

Plus: being hidden from a boyfriend’s mom, the “you’re lucky to have me” guy, gaslighting, trad wives, and why a lack of Hallmark sparks on date one isn’t always a dealbreaker.

If you’ve ever stayed too long, or watched a friend do it, this one’s for you.

Chapters: 

00:00 Where were you on 9/11?

07:10 The “I wasn’t even born yet” date

10:10 Getting home from the club in 2004 (no Uber edition)

13:30 Andrea’s secret marriage at 18

17:20 The ex who came back for her Social Security number

19:55 Getting out and making a hard decision

21:55 Red flags and being a friend without judgment

28:20 Gaslighting and why people stay

30:45 Strength, resilience, and starting over

32:00 “You’re lucky to have me” and being kept a secret

39:00 Trad wives, raising sons, and “never quit your job”

42:15 Red flags we’d never ignore now

43:45 Bad relationship vs. wrong relationship

46:50 Speaking up in the bedroom (and the too-fast Miami hottie)

#TheMotherload #MomPodcast #RedFlags #ToxicRelationships #Gaslighting #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #WomenEmpowerment #MomLife #Resilience #AgeGap #RealTalk

Date night was going great... until the martinis, the gummies, and a very friendly cowboy couple who REALLY wanted to drive them home. 

This week on The Motherload, Andrea and Gillian get real about marriage after kids: keeping the spark alive when you're running on empty, splitting chores without keeping score, and why "fair" might be the most dangerous word in a parent's vocabulary. Plus Andrea's email trick that changed how she handles arguments, and a golf vocab quiz that goes completely off the rails.

If your marriage currently runs on a shared calendar and leftovers, pull up a chair. 

New episodes of The Motherload, the mom podcast about motherhood, marriage, and the mental load, every week.

Chapters: 

00:00 Cold open: swinger vibes

00:40 Andrea's TMI: a wild night on the deck

05:05 Partners who celebrate you

06:00 Date night, martinis & the cowboy couple

10:55 Bar besties you never text again

12:20 How we split household chores

14:40 Picky eaters & who cooks dinner

16:45 The neat freak husband (gender roles reversed)

19:55 Handling conflict: the email trick

23:15 Date nights, hotel escapes & playing hooky

25:55 How we met: puka shells & Hinge

32:30 The "fairness" trap in marriage

36:55 Go find your own fun

38:30 Birdie, eagle, condor? A golf quiz

41:50 Scottie Scheffler & Dallas talk

43:15 Bedtime routines & sign-off

#TheMotherload #MomPodcast #MarriageAfterKids #MentalLoad #MomLife #DateNight #ParentingPodcast #MotherhoodUnfiltered #DallasMoms #RelationshipGoals

Pour the champagne, because this one gets real (and yes, a little TMI). Andrea and Gillian kick things off with a heartfelt tribute to period poops, then dive into the messy, beautiful truth about becoming a mom.

They swap pregnancy and birth stories, from positive tests and epidural horror stories to a doctor who told Andrea to "stop being dramatic" mid-push. They get honest about postpartum depression, fake "four days postpartum" influencer posts, and the friendships that quietly fade after you have a baby. Then comes the big one: the invisible load. Doctor's appointments, school forms, birthday gifts, and the dad who didn't know the pediatrician's name.

If you've ever been asked "who's watching the kids?" while you're away on girls day or traveling, but your partner goes golfing and no one blinks an eye, this episode is for you. 

Cheers, Motherloaders!

Chapters: 

00:00 Offloading the invisible load

00:20 A tribute to period poops

02:40 Colonoscopies and a poop fact check

06:00 Finding out we were pregnant

10:40 Epidurals and birth stories

13:00 Coming home: now what?

16:15 Best advice for new moms

18:30 Formula, co-sleeping, and ignoring judgment

20:30 Postpartum depression and asking for help

23:00 Unrealistic postpartum influencers

24:30 The most shocking part of parenthood

27:40 Losing friends after having a baby

32:00 Stop competing and support other moms

34:40 Sliding into the DMs (the cringe moment)

35:50 The invisible load of motherhood

39:15 Dads, shoe sizes, and gender roles

44:20 "Who's watching your kid?"

45:30 Cheers to less invisible load

#TheMotherload #MomPodcast #InvisibleLoad #MentalLoad #MomLife #MillennialMoms #WorkingMoms #Po

Potty training meltdowns, MapQuest road trips, and a baby born on the most awkward date on the calendar. Welcome to The Motherload! In the very first episode, best friends Andrea and Gillian pop some champagne and get honest about who they were before motherhood, marriage, and corporate life.

Andrea moved to Texas "for two years max”, and is still here a decade later. She also found out she was pregnant six days before moving back to Colombia. Gillian was told as a kid that she'd never make it to college, and today she's a VP of marketing. Along the way they get into why solo travel is secret training for motherhood, why nobody has it figured out at 25 (or 39), and the advice they'd give their younger selves.

If you're a millennial mom juggling a career, a toddler, and a missing birth certificate, pour a glass and pull up a chair. Cheers, Motherloaders!

Chapters: 

00:00 Most unhinged moment of the week

02:10 Who were we in our 20s?

05:00 Why solo travel builds confidence

07:15 MapQuest, flip phones, and road trips

10:30 Millennials, Gen Z, and Gen Alpha

12:00 The January 6th baby

14:00 Defining moments: saying yes to Texas

19:30 Growing up with a learning disability

27:00 What we'd tell our younger selves

29:00 Backstreet Boys at the Sphere

31:00 Cheers to Tanner

37:00 The hard decade and finding the light

39:30 You don't have to have it figured out

42:00 Pregnant six days before moving abroad

43:30 A word on situationships

46:30 Why we're friends

#TheMotherload #MomPodcast #MotherhoodPodcast #MillennialMoms #WorkingMoms #MomLife #MomFriends #ToddlerLife #PottyTraining #StayTheCourse #NewPodcast

Surprise! We're Launching a Brand New Show!

Two moms. Real talk. All the things.

Join us as we dive into the beautiful, messy, chaotic reality of millennial motherhood; the stuff nobody warns you about. We're talking aging parents and growing kids in the same breath, partners who don't quite get why you're losing it over laundry, schedules that make no sense, surprise pregnancies, toddler meltdowns at the grocery store, and the constant question of "wait, is it just me?"

But we're also going deep. We're talking about grief. About losing a parent. About surviving heartbreak that changes you. About the weight of carrying things nobody sees. The conversations that keep you up at night. The moments when motherhood, marriage, and life just feel unbearably heavy.

And then we're talking about the unexpected joys too. The ridiculous moments. The beautiful things. The deeper conversations about who you thought you'd be versus who you actually are now — and honestly, how you're making peace with the difference.

Whether you're juggling work and kids, navigating a partnership on three hours of sleep, processing aging or loss, surviving your own heartbreak, or just trying to figure out your identity in your late thirties (spoiler: it's complicated), this is the show for you.

New episodes coming soon. Because moms deserve a space where everything is on the table: the grief, the joy, the chaos, the growth, and everything in between.

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