NVC Life with Rachelle Lamb

The NVC 'connecting request'

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This episode focuses on the the 4th step of the NVC process which is REQUESTS; and in this episode, we explore the “connecting request”. Connecting requests anchor the conversation in the expression of feelings and needs. We either ask for the other person to reflect back our feelings and needs or we ask the other person to express their feelings and needs. Tune in to learn how a connecting request can deepen your conversations. 


Resources: 10 examples of connecting requests:

  1. Would you be willing to tell me what you’re hearing me say? 
  2. Can you tell me how you feel about what I’ve just said? 
  3. Can you tell me what you’re hearing that’s so alive in me? 
  4. Can you tell me what you’re hearing that I’m placing such a high value on in this moment? 
  5. Can you tell me what comes up for you hearing what I’ve just said? 
  6. Can you tell me how my words are landing for you? 
  7. Can you reflect back to me what you’re hearing me say? 
  8. I want to be sure I’m speaking clearly and am wondering if you’d help me out and let me know what you’re hearing right now? 
  9. I want to be sure you’re not hearing blame or criticism and I’m wondering what you’re hearing? 
  10. Can you tell me what’s stimulated in you hearing what I’ve said?  


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