In today’s episode hosts Julia Rogers and Angela Quiñones share their thoughts on the phrase: “the only thing holding you back is you” and how it's actually a form of blame. It takes a complex interaction of relationships, systems, privilege, opportunity, timing, and effort, and reduces it to a single cause, the individual.

They talk about:

1. Victim blaming
2. Dynamics and projection
3. Cognitive bias
4. Blame and responsibility
5. Elemental Smugness

Here are the highlights of this episode:

1:27 The amygdala gets hijacked.

1:46 This phrase appeals to personal agency

2:21 You are the only one responsible for anything happening in your life

2:30 There are so many variables to take into account

3:32 It takes away any critical analysis

3:38 We don’t all have the same 24 hours in the day

7:45 People can not just forget about their personal circumstances

8:15 Dynamic and projection

9:28 Positions of power and higher status

10:43 Elemental Smugness

11:53 You and only you is the one to blame

12:28 Cognitive bias

13:13 People are doing their best with what they have