This episode is a call to recognize how our upbringing affects our subsequent relationships and self-perception.

"It's hard to fix a thing when you don't know that a thing is affecting you."

I illustrates how our experiences can lead us to become the wounders in our own households. "There's the wound, then there's the wounder, then there's the wounded. And then there's the wounded turned wounder."

As we uncover these layers, the aim is for awareness that leads to wholeness, remembering that our journeys are intertwined with those of others.

Reflect on your experiences and consider how they have shaped who you are today.
If you’re curious to dive deeper, tune in to the full episode.

• Unpacking the Mother Wound: A Path to Healing
• How Early Relationships Shape Our Identities
• Discovering the Impact of the Mother Wound
• Healing Begins with Awareness: The Mother Wound
• Understanding the Cycle of Wounds and Healing




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Mother Behind the Wound
Understanding the Wounder Without Excusing the Wound




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What if becoming who God called you to be isn’t about becoming someone new—but returning to who He already created you to be?

In this special identity recap, we revisit the women we’ve walked through throughout this series—from Eve, Sarah, and Hagar to Ruth, Naomi, Hannah, Abigail, Deborah, Jael, Esther, and more.

Each woman’s story revealed something about identity, purpose, waiting, obedience, words, comparison, rejection, loyalty, faith, and alignment.

Eve reminds us what can happen when we don’t know who we are and begin listening to voices that contradict what God has said.

Sarah shows us the tension between believing God’s promise and struggling with His timing.

Hagar reminds us that our circumstances don’t get to define us.

Rachel and Leah reveal the dangers of comparison, lack, striving, and trying to earn a place.

Deborah and Jael show us that God isn’t looking for perfect women—He’s looking for willing ones.

Ruth and Naomi remind us that shared faith can move us forward.

Hannah teaches us how to wait well.

Abigail shows us the power of wisdom and words.

Esther reminds us that God is working in the details and positioning us for purpose.

And then we look at the ultimate model of aligned identity: Jesus.

Jesus knew who He was, knew why He came, and remained committed to the Father’s will—even when obedience meant walking toward the cross.

Because alignment doesn’t mean we never struggle with what God asks of us. It means we ultimately surrender our will to His.

Our next conversation begins because sometimes the reason we struggle to live from our God-given identity isn’t because we don’t love God.

It’s because our wounds have been teaching us something different about ourselves.

We’re going beneath the surface talking about the hidden places, the beliefs formed through pain, and the wounds that can quietly shape how we love, trust, communicate, and see ourselves.

Healing isn’t just about what happened to you. It’s also about what what happened to you taught you to believe.

If you’re ready to start identifying the wounds that may be shaping the way you see yourself and move through life,

visit my Stan Store and grab The Hidden Wounds Workbook.

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It’s designed to help you identify what’s been shaping you, uncover the beliefs underneath the pain, and begin the healing process with God.

Your healing journey starts with honesty. Let’s talk healing. 🤍

An entire book with no mention of Gods name and yet you see his hand in every detail!

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This episode dives into:

God’s Provision Often Begins with One Act of Faith

Obedience in Scarcity

Someone Is Waiting on Your Obedience

Identity Matters: Wounds Shape Our Response

Survival Mode vs. Kingdom Identity

When Your Answered Prayer Doesn’t Look Like You Expected

Learning From Wounds Instead of Living Through Them

The Miracle of “Enough”

God Is Always Planning Further Ahead Than We Are

What wound has been shaping your obedience?

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If this episode stirred something in you, that’s exactly why I created The Hidden Wounds Workbook. It’s not about having all the answers—it’s about helping you identify the wounds that may be quietly shaping your identity, your relationships, and even your obedience to God.

Because when God heals the wound, obedience becomes less of a struggle, and trusting Him becomes a way of life

A wound-shaped identity says: Protect yourself. Hold on to what you have. No one is coming.

A Christ-shaped identity says: Trust God. Obey Him. He is your Provider.

How Abigail’s Discernment Saved Two Men | 1 Samuel 25

Most people know Abigail for saving her husband, Nabal—but what if her wisdom actually saved two men?

In this episode, we unpack one of the most overlooked women in Scripture and discover how one woman’s God-given discernment stood between foolishness and destruction. Abigail didn’t just preserve her household; she also stopped David from allowing anger and vengeance to stain the future God had prepared for him.

We’ll talk about:

• Why discernment is one of a believer’s greatest gifts.
• What biblical submission really looks like.
• The power of interceding for others.
• How sweet speech can redirect someone’s future.
• Why speaking truth in love may save someone from a decision they’ll regret.

Abigail reminds us that wisdom doesn’t stay silent. Sometimes God places you in someone’s path not to condemn them, but to lovingly remind them who they are and call them back to their purpose.

If you’ve ever wondered how to respond with wisdom in the middle of chaos, this episode is for you.

Key Scriptures: 1 Samuel 25, Proverbs 16:21, Psalm 84:11

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Sometimes what we’re praying for isn’t just about us. In this episode, we look at Hannah’s story and discover how waiting, surrender, and trusting God’s timing can transform our perspective. Every blessing is a gift from God—and ultimately belongs to Him.

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Ruth said, “I’m coming too” 😂 and Naomi said, “Girl, go home.” But Ruth wasn’t going NOWHERE!

In this episode, we’re getting into Ruth and Naomi from a friendship perspective—loyalty with nothing to gain, relationships rooted in faith instead of just shared trauma, and the kind of Christian walk that makes somebody curious about the God you serve.

We also talk about Naomi allowing a painful season to rename her “Mara,” restoration after grief and loss, and why sometimes one real, God-sent friend is worth more than seven people you call friends. 👀

And while we’re talking about pain trying to rename us… have you ever stopped to ask what unhealed wounds may still be shaping the way you show up, react, or connect with people?

Take my FREE Assessment to Help You Identify Unhealed Wounds and start uncovering what may still need healing. 🤍

Then, get on the waitlist for The Hidden Wounds Workbook—a Christ-centered guide created to help you identify what’s been shaping your life and begin healing with God.

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God doesn’t need perfect women—He needs willing ones.

In this episode of The Original HER Experience, we explore the powerful stories of Deborah and Jael in Judges 4 and discover what can happen when ordinary women fully surrender to an extraordinary God. Deborah teaches us the importance of knowing our position, trusting God’s voice, and leading with courage. Jael reminds us that God can use what’s already in our hands to accomplish His purposes.

Together, their stories reveal a powerful truth: God is not limited by titles, status, culture, or human expectations. He strengthens and uses women who are willing to trust Him, obey Him, and align themselves with His will.

Scriptures Referenced:
• Judges 4
• Psalm 20:7
• Psalm 23
• Jeremiah 29:11

🤍 Heart Check Questions

• Where has God already spoken that you’ve been waiting on more confirmation?

• Are you chasing a position instead of stewarding the one God has already given you?

• What “tent peg” has God already placed in your hand that you’re overlooking?

• Where is God asking you to choose conviction over comfort?

• What battle are you trying to win in your own strength that God wants you to surrender to Him?

Remember:Deborah knew her position. Jael used what was in her hand. God doesn’t need perfect women—just willing ones.

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“You don’t have to make headlines to leave an impact.” 🤍

In this episode, we explore the story of Zipporah and the powerful reminder that significance isn’t determined by visibility. Through her often-overlooked role in Scripture, we’ll uncover what it means to be faithful behind the scenes, embrace God’s unique assignment for your life, and find your identity in purpose—not popularity. Because sometimes the people who make the greatest impact are the ones who never make the headlines. 🤍

💎 Her Gems

• You don’t have to be the face of the movement to be essential to the mission.

• Just because your work isn’t visible doesn’t mean it isn’t valuable.

• Some of the greatest impact happens in places where there is no audience.

• Your obedience in private may be affecting people you’ll never meet.

• God doesn’t measure significance the way the world measures visibility.

• Your assignment doesn’t need a spotlight to have purpose.

• Faithfulness in secret still carries weight in the Kingdom.

• Stop comparing your role to someone else’s platform.

• Your “yes” to God may be changing generations, even if no one applauds it.

• Some people are called to be prominent. Others are called to be pivotal. Both matter.

• The world celebrates recognition. God honors obedience.

• You don’t have to make headlines to leave an impact.

• Sometimes the foundation is more important than the spotlight.

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Sis, it’s time to stop lowering the bar and remember this truth: you were already worthy enough for Jesus to lay down His life for you.

In this episode of The Original HER Experience, we’re unpacking the story of Rachel & Leah and the powerful lessons they teach us about worth, validation, love, and identity in Christ.

From performing for affection to attaching our value to what we lack, this conversation dives into how easily we can settle, strive, and search for fulfillment in people instead of God.

We talk about:✨ Raising the bar in relationships✨ Performing for love & validation✨ Leah’s struggle to feel chosen✨ Rachel’s focus on what she lacked✨ Healing from survival mode✨ Why your worth was already settled at the cross

Because healing begins when we stop performing to be chosen and realize we were already chosen by God. 🤍

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God never intended for us to heal alone. Community is part of the process.