This reflection ends with a discussion about the essence of a person that fundamentally forms their (pronoun intentionally selected) existence. I define this essence as gifted overflow and raise questions about quantity, control, reciprocity and relationships. In this part of the reflection I also talk about my own specific overflow and the ways I incorporate it into my work. To get to this ending point, I meander through a lot of randomness that could serve as good food for thought. Theoretical Frames: The Instinctual Stack (of the Enneagram)