The Pain You Don't Even Realize You're Carrying In Your Marriage

In this episode of It's Scary To Remarry, host Shon Hyneman delves into the complexities of marriage with guest Michael Cox, a licensed professional counselor.

They explore the impact of unresolved pain on relationships, the importance of self-regulation, and the challenges of communication in marriage. Michael shares insights from his experience in counseling and discusses the concept of pain and peace cycles, offering practical advice for couples seeking to strengthen their relationships.

We discuss:

• The pain you don't even realize you carry into marriage.
• Self-regulation is key to managing emotions in relationships.
• Communication issues often stem from reactive processes.
• Understanding pain cycles can transform marital dynamics.
• Couples must learn to identify and communicate their internal struggles.
• Marriage is a covenant, not just a contract.
• Unresolved past hurts can impact new conflicts in marriage.
• Community and authentic connections are vital for healthy relationships.
• Loving oneself is essential to loving others effectively.
• Marriage requires ongoing effort and commitment from both partners

Chapters:

• 00:00:04 Introduction to Pain in Marriage
• 00:00:16 Meet Michael Cox
• 00:00:46 Understanding Pain and Peace Cycles
• 00:01:16 The Role of Self-Regulation
• 00:01:36 Communication Challenges
• 00:02:20 Healing Past Hurts
• 00:03:03 The Importance of Community
• 00:04:28 Loving Yourself and Others
• 00:05:26 Conclusion and Takeaways