In this reflection I consider the Pareto Principle which is a rule that says 80% of outputs is controlled by 20% of inputs. Supporting themes: Sibling dynamics; relocation; Lifestyle design/ design living; Solo living; Impostered self vs authentic self; Practicing authenticity; Therapy; Confronting transphobia; Living in a new world after someone dies. This reflection was influenced in part by The Investopedia Team ("What Is the Pareto Principle—aka the Pareto Rule or 80/20 Rule?). Typology: Sensing versus intuition