The Pattern Breaker Podcast

By Lish Hummel

Break the patterns you can’t see -by understanding the energy beneath them.

The Pattern Breaker Podcast explores the energetic patterns, subconscious loops, and emotional imprints shaping our lives. ... more

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August 04, 2026Why You Still Feel Triggered by Your Ex (Even After the Relationship Ends)
Why do some conversations stay with us for days... while others we forget within minutes?
If you've ever replayed an argument with an ex, friend or family member, wishing they would finally understand you, or found yourself unable to let go of what someone said, this episode is for you.
In this deeply personal episode, I share the realization that completely changed the way I viewed my own healing.
For years, I believed I was angry because of my ex.
But the truth was, I wasn't reacting to one conversation.
I was reacting to years of feeling unseen, unheard, and ultimately... unchosen.
This episode introduces what I call The Need To Be Chosen Room-a nervous system structure that quietly organizes our relationships around the unconscious need to be chosen, validated, and finally seen.
Inside this episode, we'll explore:
Why you replay conversations long after they've ended.
Why certain people trigger you more than others.
The hidden connection between anger, validation, and feeling chosen.
How unresolved emotional patterns keep repeating in relationships.
What shifted when I stopped waiting for someone else to finally hear me.
If you've ever felt like you're fighting for someone to understand you, this conversation may reveal that the real healing begins somewhere entirely different.
Because maybe...
you were never fighting about the conversation.
You were fighting to be chosen.
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Take the quiz to discover which ROOM (Structure) you’re in right now.
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Sometimes the greatest shift begins with finally having language for what you’ve been carrying all along.
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And what all of this truly comes down to is...how steady you can be in your energy even through the chaos....which is what happens inside Coming Home (Previously Sacred & Secure)- We start August 15th! Clear in your energy. Rooted in your life.

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12min
July 23, 2026 Why You Can’t Just ‘Do The Thing’ + A Full Moon Release & Receive Meditation
Have you ever been told to “just go for it,” “be brave,” or “have the audacity”...yet something inside you still couldn’t move?

What if the problem isn’t a lack of confidence or courage?

What if you’re still living inside the very structure that taught you who you had to be?

In this special Full Moon episode, I’m inviting you into a gentle Release & Receive meditation designed to help you lay down the patterns, beliefs, and identities that no longer serve you.

Together, we’ll explore the metaphor of the room you’ve been living in and create space for the version of you that’s ready to emerge.

Whether you’re listening under the light of the Full Moon or simply feeling called to let go, this meditation is here to remind you that you don’t have to carry everything into your next chapter.

In this episode, you’ll experience:

✨ Why feeling stuck isn’t a lack of courage
✨ The hidden “room” that keeps us repeating old patterns
✨ A guided Full Moon Release & Receive meditation
✨ A moment to reconnect with your own inner wisdom and create space for what’s next

Take a deep breath, find a quiet place if you can, and allow yourself to receive.

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Take the quiz to discover which ROOM (Structure) you’re holding right now.
⁠⁠Take the Quiz⁠⁠

Sometimes the greatest shift begins with finally having language for what you’ve been carrying all along.
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✨WORK WITH ME:

BOOK 1:1: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.healingwithlish.com/services⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

You're Not Stuck, You're Structured -Mapping Experience-⁠⁠ Head HERE.⁠⁠

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INSTAGRAM:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@healingwithlish⁠⁠⁠⁠

WEBSITE: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.healingwithlish.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Meditation Music by:
Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):
https://uppbeat.io/t/oliver-massa/gentle-awareness

Intro & Outro Music by:
Music by LiQWYD
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Free download: ⁠⁠⁠http://bit.ly/morning-free-⁠⁠⁠
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16min
June 18, 2026True Power is Not Hyper Control-A Deeper Look at The Responsibility Structure
This week I barely showed up on social media. I didn’t post much. I wasn’t forcing productivity.

And my business didn’t fall apart.

That realization led me into a deeper conversation about something I call the Responsibility Structure. The subconscious framework that teaches women their value comes from carrying more, managing more, anticipating more, and holding everything together.

In this episode, I’m sharing a personal story that completely shifted how I see responsibility, overwhelm, and what it actually means to feel safe.

We’ll explore:
Why so many women feel responsible for everyone else’s emotions
The hidden difference between being responsible and carrying responsibility
How hyper-responsibility quietly impacts relationships, self-trust, business, and the nervous system
Why rest can feel uncomfortable even when you desperately need it
What becomes possible when you stop carrying what was never yours to hold.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re holding everything together while slowly losing yourself in the process, this episode will likely feel very familiar.

You are not broken. You may simply be carrying a structure that no longer fits the woman you’re becoming.
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If this episode resonated, take the quiz to discover which structure you’re primarily holding right now.
⁠Take the Quiz⁠

Sometimes the greatest shift begins with finally having language for what you’ve been carrying all along.
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✨WORK WITH ME:
BOOK 1:1: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.healingwithlish.com/services⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
What are you still holding? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE QUIZ.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

You're Not Stuck, You're Structured Mapping Experience-⁠ Head HERE.⁠
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INSTAGRAM: ⁠⁠⁠@healingwithlish⁠⁠⁠

WEBSITE: ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.healingwithlish.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

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16min
June 04, 2026Why Women Override What They Know-The Self Trust Structure
Many women don’t lack intuition.
They lack permission to trust it.
In this episode, we explore the structure women build when trusting themselves stops feeling safe.
The part of them that:
knows something is off… but overrides it
rationalizes red flags
seeks reassurance before making decisions
disconnects from body signals
stays suspended between intuition and logic for years
We talk about:
why women are taught to distrust themselves
the tension between desire and duty
what happens when logic overrides internal truth
the exhaustion of self-abandonment
and how women begin rebuilding trust with themselves after divorce, reinvention, or major life transitions
This episode is for the woman who quietly knows:
her body has been telling her the truth for a long time.
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If this episode resonated, take the quiz to discover which structure you’re primarily holding right now.
Take the Quiz

Sometimes the greatest shift begins with finally having language for what you’ve been carrying all along.
_____
✨WORK WITH ME:

BOOK 1:1: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.healingwithlish.com/services
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BOOK 1:1: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.healingwithlish.com/services⁠⁠⁠⁠
What are you still holding? ⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE QUIZ.⁠⁠⁠⁠

You're Not Stuck, You're Structured Experience- Head HERE.

✨Follow me on socials for more.

INSTAGRAM: ⁠⁠⁠@healingwithlish⁠⁠⁠

WEBSITE: ⁠⁠⁠www.healingwithlish.com⁠⁠⁠

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19min
May 28, 2026Why Being Fully Seen Doesn’t Feel Safe-The Visibility Structure
There’s a structure I see in a lot of high-functioning, highly capable women.

Externally, they look composed and they are certainly emotionally intelligent.
But internally? Being fully seen doesn’t feel safe.

So they:
soften themselves
overthink how they’ll be perceived
hide emotional truth
stay “fine”
reveal enough to maintain connection…
but not enough to fully relax into it

In this episode, we explore:
why visibility feels emotionally exposing
how women learn to manage perception for safety
the hidden exhaustion of emotional self-containment
why many women feel deeply lonely even inside connection
and what happens when being fully known still feels dangerous to the nervous system

This conversation is for the woman who feels:
present in her life…but not fully visible inside it.

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If this episode resonated, take the quiz to discover which structure you’re primarily holding right now.
Take the Quiz

Sometimes the greatest shift begins with finally having language for what you’ve been carrying all along.
_____

✨WORK WITH ME:

BOOK 1:1: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.healingwithlish.com/services⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
What are you still holding? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE QUIZ.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

You're Not Stuck, You're Structured Mapping Experience-⁠⁠ Head HERE.⁠⁠

✨Follow me on socials for more.

INSTAGRAM: ⁠⁠⁠@healingwithlish⁠⁠⁠

WEBSITE: ⁠⁠⁠www.healingwithlish.com⁠⁠⁠

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Music by LiQWYD
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Free download: ⁠⁠⁠http://bit.ly/morning-free-⁠⁠⁠
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14min
May 22, 2026The 6 Structures That Make You Feel Like You Have to Hold Everything Together
There comes a point where being the strong one stops feeling empowering…and starts feeling heavy.

In this episode, I’m introducing the 6 core emotional structures many women have been unconsciously holding for years -structures built around safety, connection, loyalty, emotional responsibility, and the need to be chosen.

This isn’t about “fixing patterns.”

It’s about recognizing the invisible roles and emotional positions you’ve been maintaining in order to feel connected, safe, loved, or needed.

If you’ve ever felt:
emotionally exhausted even when life looks “fine”
disconnected from yourself
unable to fully rest
responsible for everyone around you
afraid to fully trust yourself
unsure who you are without being needed

…this episode will likely feel deeply familiar.

Inside this conversation, I walk through:
The Structure You’re Holding to Stay Connected
The Structure You’re Holding to Keep Everything Together
The Structure You’re Holding to Stay Safe
The Structure You’re Holding That Won’t Let Things Stabilize
The Structure You’re Holding to Be Chosen
The Structure You’re Holding That Overrides What You Know

This episode is an invitation into deeper self-recognition.

Because once you can finally see the structure you’ve been holding…you stop blaming yourself for the weight of it.

If this episode resonated, take the quiz to discover which structure you’re primarily holding right now.
Take the Quiz

Sometimes the greatest shift begins with finally having language for what you’ve been carrying all along.
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✨WORK WITH ME:
BOOK 1:1: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.healingwithlish.com/services⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
What are you still holding? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE QUIZ.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

You're Not Stuck, You're Structured Mapping Experience-⁠⁠ Head HERE.⁠⁠
✨Follow me on socials for more.

INSTAGRAM: ⁠⁠⁠@healingwithlish⁠⁠⁠

WEBSITE: ⁠⁠⁠www.healingwithlish.com⁠⁠⁠

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Music by LiQWYD
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Free download: ⁠⁠⁠http://bit.ly/morning-free-⁠⁠⁠
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19min
May 14, 2026The Emotions & Roles Quietly Running Your Life
In this episode, I’m opening up about the emotional structures many women unconsciously build themselves around in order to feel safe, loved, needed, and emotionally secure. I was so excited to share this with you I completely forgot my mic, lol.
I’m talking about the invisible roles and survival identities that can quietly shape your relationships, your nervous system, your exhaustion, your motherhood, your leadership, and your sense of self for years, while still looking completely “fine” from the outside.
Inside this conversation, we explore:
why certain emotions feel so difficult to access
how survival roles become identity structures
the connection between emotional suppression and disconnection
what happens when your old identity starts unraveling
and a simple but powerful question that can help you recognize the structure you may be living inside right now
This episode is for the woman who feels like:
“Something about the way I’ve been living no longer fully fits.”
And once you start seeing these structures… you can’t unsee them anymore.
This episode also opens the doorway into the deeper work we’ll be exploring inside my upcoming masterclass on the six core structures many women unconsciously live within every day.

If you’ve been feeling the unraveling lately—this conversation is for you.

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What are you still holding? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE QUIZ.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

You're Not Stuck, You're Structured Mapping Experience-⁠⁠ Head HERE.⁠⁠
✨Follow me on socials for more.

INSTAGRAM: ⁠⁠@healingwithlish⁠⁠

WEBSITE: ⁠⁠www.healingwithlish.com⁠⁠

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13min
May 07, 2026Stop Identifying With Your Problems-Part 3 of Shadow 101
So you’ve done the work. You’ve started to see your patterns.
You recognize your triggers.
You can even name the parts of yourself that show up.
But now you’re sitting there wondering…
“Okay… but how do I actually change this?”
In this episode of The Pattern Breaker Podcast, we’re talking about what to do after awareness.
Because seeing your shadow isn’t the transformation.
It’s the doorway.
This is where most people get stuck-looping in awareness, overanalyzing their patterns, and thinking something is wrong because nothing is shifting fast enough.
But the truth is…
You don’t change your patterns by forcing them away.
In this episode, you’ll learn how to move from awareness into real change without pressure, perfection, or burnout.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Why awareness alone doesn’t change your patterns
The biggest mistake people make after shadow work
How to stop identifying with your patterns
The real purpose behind your emotional reactions
How to respond differently without forcing or overthinking
The small shifts that actually create lasting change
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🎧 Listen Next:
Shadow Work Explained: Why You Keep Getting Triggered
The Hidden Gifts in Your Shadow

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You’re waiting for clarity to hit you… but it already did.

You just didn’t trust it.

This is the moment you keep missing.

This isn’t just a random mini training…
it’s the first layer of the work I teach inside Sacred & Secure.

I call it The Kitchen Sink Awareness Reset-because that’s when the moments come in, when the mind is still-at the kitchen sink.

Get the mini training here:
https://www.healingwithlish.com/the-awareness-reset
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What are you still holding? ⁠⁠⁠FREE QUIZ.⁠⁠⁠
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INSTAGRAM: ⁠⁠@healingwithlish⁠⁠

WEBSITE: ⁠⁠www.healingwithlish.com⁠⁠

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8min
April 28, 2026The Hidden Gifts in Your Shadow: How Your Triggers Reveal Your Power-Part 2-Shadow 101
What if the parts of you that you’ve been trying to fix… are actually where your power is?

In this episode, we’re shifting how you see your shadow. Because your shadow doesn’t just hold what you’ve suppressed... it holds what you’ve been disconnected from.

Your confidence.
Your voice.
Your boundaries.
Your truth.

And often… the traits you judge most in others are pointing directly to something in you that’s ready to be reclaimed.

This is where shadow work moves from awareness… into power.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Why your shadow holds more than just wounds
How triggers can point to your unclaimed strengths
The connection between judgment and suppressed traits
How to recognize the “gift” inside your patterns
Why reclaiming these parts shifts your identity and choices
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You’re waiting for clarity to hit you… but it already did.

You just didn’t trust it.

This is the moment you keep missing.

This isn’t just a random mini training…
it’s the first layer of the work I teach inside Sacred & Secure.

I called it The Kitchen Sink Awareness Reset-because that’s when the moments come in, when the mind is still.

Get the mini training here:

https://www.healingwithlish.com/the-awareness-reset

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✨WORK WITH ME:
✨BOOK 1:1: ⁠⁠https://www.healingwithlish.com/services⁠⁠
✨What are you still holding? ⁠⁠FREE QUIZ.⁠⁠

✨Follow me on socials for more.

INSTAGRAM: ⁠@healingwithlish⁠

WEBSITE: ⁠www.healingwithlish.com⁠

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Free download: ⁠http://bit.ly/morning-free-⁠
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11min
April 22, 2026Shadow 101-What Your Triggers Are Really Showing You
If you keep getting triggered by the same types of people… this isn’t random.
In this episode of The Pattern Breaker Podcast, we’re breaking down shadow work in a way that actually makes sense-without overcomplicating it or making it feel heavy.
Your “shadow” isn’t something dark or negative.It’s the parts of you that learned they weren’t safe to be seen.
And even though those parts were pushed away… they’re still influencing:
your reactions
your relationships
your patterns
This episode will help you start recognizing how your shadow shows up in real time-especially through emotional triggers and repeated patterns.
Because the moment you can see it…you can start to shift it.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
What shadow work actually is (in simple, real terms)
Why your triggers are not random
How suppressed traits shape your behavior and patterns
The connection between your shadow and the ways you keep yourself small
Why awareness is the first step to becoming a pattern breaker
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If Shadow Work is just as intriguing to you as it is for me, I have an insightful module all on Shadow inside Sacred & Secure which includes a very special Hypnosis for breaking the patterns that are keeping you from feeling 100% sacred & secure.
This course is about creating a sense of home inside your own energy.
-A place your body recognizes as safe.-A field your nervous system can finally rest in.-A boundary that doesn’t require effort... because it’s built from self-trust.
This is where you stop being an open door and become a grounded, sovereign presence.
SACRED & SECURE:⁠ https://www.healingwithlish.com/sacred-secure⁠______

WORK WITH ME:
✨BOOK 1:1: ⁠https://www.healingwithlish.com/services⁠
✨What are you still holding? ⁠FREE QUIZ.⁠
✨Follow me on socials for more.

INSTAGRAM: ⁠@healingwithlish⁠

WEBSITE: ⁠www.healingwithlish.com⁠

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Music by LiQWYD
⁠www.soundcloud.com/LiQWYD⁠
Free download: ⁠http://bit.ly/morning-free-⁠
⁠download⁠
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Music by @LIQWYD
...more
10min

FAQs about The Pattern Breaker Podcast:

How many episodes does The Pattern Breaker Podcast have?

The podcast currently has 12 episodes available.