In this solo episode, host Shelbi Jones discusses making a crush list inspired by a TikTok from @tinx. Shelbi also discusses how a crush often stems from a lack of information and how we can romanticize people simply because we don’t know them well.

This episode explores the reasons behind crushes, the excitement of the unknown, and how curiosity can fuel attraction. The host explains how creating a crush list—a simple yet impactful way to clarify your feelings—can help put the process of attraction into perspective.

Tune in for a thoughtful conversation on relationships, self-awareness, and how identifying the core reasons behind a crush can help us grow, connect, and better understand our desires.

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