In college, the dean of student life told me something I’ve never forgotten.

We keep teaching people what to think.
When we should be teaching them how to think.

It sounded simple.
It didn’t feel simple.
It still doesn’t.

Because the longer I do this work, the more I notice a problem in myself.

Helping feels responsible.
Helping feels like care.
And sometimes there’s a little part of it that feels off.

This episode is me trying to name why.

How “I’ll just do it” turns into dependence.
How over helping quietly removes agency.
How leadership can slip into control without meaning to.

A story about my 19 year old, a dead key fob, and the moment I realized I was taking ownership back from him instead of letting him grow into it.

Demonstration versus definition.
Questions before ideas.
Control versus ownership.

And the uncomfortable question underneath all of it.

Am I making them stronger, or making them dependent?

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