“There’s a difference between a loud, reactive thought and a quiet knowing. When the quiet one came, I finally listened.”

What happens when the life that looked perfect on paper no longer feels right in your heart? Alexis Colantonio joins Lila for a raw, soulful conversation about navigating the middle of a separation, not with hindsight, but while still deep in the mess of it. She opens up about the emotional complexity of divorce, the surprising clarity that emerged, and how she’s learning to move forward while parenting three kids through it all - with honesty, grace, and a whole lot of self-trust.

Learn more about Alexis at Pure Natural Living.

What You'll Love About This Conversation:

• Reality vs. Potential: Alexis realized she had married an idea, not a person, and shares how we often confuse potential for partnership.
• Divorce While Raising Kids: Parenting through a separation brought its own chaos, but Alexis found strength in honesty, presence, and learning to let go of control.
• The Quiet Voice of Truth: True clarity didn’t come in chaos - it came in calm. She knew it was time to leave, not from anger, but from a peaceful sense of self-trust.

Next Step: If you’ve ever questioned your inner voice or felt stuck in something that "should" work but doesn't, press play and listen in—you’re not alone.

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