What happens when the life you planned falls apart — and you’re asked to meet yourself without the roles, the certainty, or the script? This is a conversation about fear, presence, and the quiet work of remembering who you are and your purpose.

Some of the most important work shaping our future isn’t loud, urgent or reactive. It happens quietly — in the way young people are seen, listened to, and supported as they form their sense of self.

Margit sits down with Emer to explore her story and how it’s led to a deep commitment to teen wellbeing and identity formation. Emer shares what she believes young people need most right now, why identity matters long before adulthood, and how the way we show up for teenagers today has ripple effects far beyond the family home.

This is a conversation for parents, adults, educators — and anyone who cares about the emotional health of the next generation. It’s not about fixing teens, but about shaping the environments that allow them to become who they truly are.

In this episode we explore:

• How identity quietly forms — and quietly erodes
• Why fear often disguises itself as responsibility
• The power of presence in moments of upheaval
• Autonomy as a foundation for confidence
• The stories we unknowingly hand down
• Feedback, fear, and the cost of over-correcting
• Why awareness changes everything — once you have it
• The quiet, preventative work Emer believes can change outcomes for young people worldwide

02:30 – Motherhood, identity, and life unravelling
04:09 – Learning presence from racing drivers
07:10 – Values, courage, and asking for what you need
11:30 – A child’s wisdom that stops everything
14:56 – Our second greatest need (it’s not what you think!)
18:06 – Coaching, questions and letting people think
28:41 – Mental resistance and the comfort of staying stuck
33:30 – What happens when you finally understand yourself
41:40 – Trust, freedom and learning to navigate life

Emer O’Donnell is the founder of Teen ReConnect and the creator of Q Pathfinder, a tool designed to help young people understand who they are and navigate life with confidence. With a background in psychology, over 20 years in global business, and a Master’s in Coaching and Behavioural Change from Henley Business School, her work blends science with lived experience. Emer is also a mother of three, bringing depth, realism and heart to every conversation about identity and growth.

Emer’s Book: Understanding Teen Stress & Anxiety. A Parent's Guide To Building Love & Connection.

A resource for parents and professionals with young people in their lives who want to upgrade their skills to better navigate these challenging years.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Understanding-Stress-Anxiety-Step-Step/dp/1738422305

Emer’s Free Difficult Conversation Guide: https://www.teenreconnect.com/difficultconversationguide

Connect with Emer: https://www.linkedin.com/in/emerodonnell/

Website: https://www.teenreconnect.com/EmerODonnell

Enquiries: [email protected]