In a culture where self-care is such a buzz word and such a priority, we have to understand that most of us get it wrong.  Self-care does not mean self-indulging. But that’s how we often treat it.  Self-care, on the contrary, is simply caring for yourself.  You do this the same way you would care for a patient, or your child, or a friend.  It’s about making yourself better.  Indulging your every desire to try and lick your emotional wounds back to health is not only ineffective and couterproductive, but damaging and sinful.