Do you find yourself in a relationship with someone who isn’t meeting you halfway? Are you curious to learn why your partner refuses to do their part of the work in the relationship? According to behavioral psychology, human beings are hedonistic. We prefer pleasure over pain, good over evil, comfortable over uncomfortable—even though  it is through discomfort that we grow. If you listen to the podcast, I consider you a growth/developmental-oriented person. If a non-growth/developmental-oriented person stays in a relationship with you long enough, they inevitably will bump up against discomfort and will do one of three things: run, check out, or sabotage. Tune in to this short episode to learn more about avoidance tactics, the number one reason your partner resists change, and the role shame plays in this dynamic. Useful Links:   Download the transcript to Episode 421: The #1 Reason Your Partner Won't Do The Work https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow/ https://www.gettingtozerobook.com  

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Jayson opens up about his recent prostate cancer diagnosis. He talks about the causes of cancer, letting people’s care in and his recommendations for how men should monitor their health as they age. This episode is a PSA for men over 40, if you haven’t been screened for cancer, now is the time.  Timestamps:  2:16 - Jayson's experience 6:34 - Causes of cancer 9:01 - Letting people's care in 12:15 - Recommendations for men over 40  Links:  Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Follow Jayson on social media:  Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook   

My Experience with Cancer - Men Listen Up - Jayson Gaddis - 500

IN THIS EPISODE, You will learn:  To see your partner as a sacred mirror and sanctuary for the growing your greatest actualized self The true characteristics of a long-term partnership How your partnership is the optimal container for complete transformation of yourself into the highest possible version imaginable How to fall in love and why this is more important than being married How to take radical responsibility for being loved in every moment of your life How to actually get your needs/wants met in a partnership How to know if conflict in your relationship is driving you toward or away from more magnificence  There’s a ton in this episode so dive in and go slow. And, Here’s a great question from Annie to ask yourself if you are trying to decide to stay or leave: Is the person I’m being called to become by what my partner’s asking me to become (if you take on the growth-development framework), will you become a more extraordinary version of yourself? If who they are asking you to become is a constricted, small, tight version of you, then this is probably not the person you want to be with. However, if you identify as the smaller version of you, then, you are going to hear your partner’s feedback as criticism and blame and might make them wrong in the process. So, pay attention to these finer points. Timestamps:  1:47 - What are we getting into when we say yes to long-term relationships? 6:04 - Becoming the best version of yourself 9:49 - Annie's story 16:48 - Taking responsibility when we don't feel loved 21:35 - Getting out of your victimhood 30:34 - When to leave   Links:  Annie Lalla – Love Coach for Singles & Couples Apply to Relationship Coach Training Follow Jayson on social media:  Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok   

When to Stay or Leave + True Love - Annie Lalla - 499

Most of us have no idea how damaging relational stress can be. In this episode, legendary medical doctor and psycho-physio-spiritual trailblazer Dr. Gabor Maté brings some very grounded, practical examples of how relationship stress can impact our lives. The result of stress can be seen throughout the web of our life and it’s up to us to learn how to relate and attach well to our fellow humans. I love how this man turns such complicated topics into common sense. If you want a deeper cut about your marriage, children, or any stressful relationship, this episode is a must listen. SHOWNOTES  What happens when Gabor’s wife forgets to pick him up at the airport. [8:30] How our partners are perfectly suited to help us grow. [10:35] What happened in Gabor’s childhood that makes his wife a perfect match for him now. [13:00] The long-term cost of not dealing with stress. [15:00] How parents can be compromised by raising their children. [17:30] The link between our relationship health and our physical and mental health. [19:30] What’s the best way to deal with our own relational and attachment issues? [29:00] Why relational healing modalities are so effective. [30:00] What we can learn from pygmy cultures about parenting and relationships. [32:30] How relationship can most effectively be taught to children. [34:00] The effect of Facebook and Internet on kids. [38:00]  Links:  My Relationship Coach (MRC) Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Addiction Expert, Speaker and Best-selling Author Dr. Gabor Maté (drgabormate.com) Apply to Relationship Coach Training Follow Jayson on social media:  Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok   

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Are you attending couples therapy but feeling like you're not making progress? Jayson and Ellen delve into why couples often find themselves spinning their wheels and offer insights on how to propel your relationship forward if you're feeling stuck. They also tackle the issue of spiritual bypassing, emphasizing that true letting go is a gradual process.  Timestamps:  2:01 - Couples not making progress 7:36 - Doing the work 22:28 - Overly spiritual couples   Links:  The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 Follow Jayson on social media:  Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok   

Advice for Couples, Therapists and Coaches - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 497

Irka and Eugene join Jayson to talk non-monogamy. Is monogamy inherently restrictive? Do people in polyamorous relationships have boundaries? Is non-hierarchical polyamory possible? What role does sexual exploration play in a polyamorous relationship? Is non-monogamy for you? Whether you’re monogamous or not, you’ll find plenty of wisdom in this insightful conversation. Timestamps:  8:45 - Definitions and terms 11:40 - Boundaries 19:52 - Thirds 34:09 - Is monogamy inherently restrictive? 37:39 - Sexual exploration 42:27 - Is non-monogamy for you? 51:03 - Communication 53:51 - Advice for high school kids 57:45 - Links 59:15 - Action step  Links:  Covalent Life Ethical Monogamy My Relationship Coach (MRC) Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Follow Jayson on social media:  Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook   

The #1 Reason Your Partner Won’t Do The Work - Jayson Gaddis - 421

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