I have been feeling like a disappointment lately after choosing myself over others. I have always struggled with the image of being a villain however I also realised that there is safety, peace and healing in not fighting to defend yourself.

On this week’s episode 🎙️ I talk about my experiences of seeing myself and internationalising people’s disappointment in me and the fear of being the Villain after I started to stop people

I hope my openness, laughter and vulnerability reach you and provides validation through your healing/ Life journey. 🤗 💜

Love,

Abanga Lydia.

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I wake up everyday taking a deep breath to face the crazy world we are now living in. It feels like depending on where you are coming from in society the future can really look bleak and impossible. On this week’s episode 🎙️joins me as I reflect on my thoughts on “DOC - EMERGENCY DEBATE, THEY LIED TO YOU ABOUT THE ECONOMY RECOVERING”. How I am choosing to approach life and the future even though it can seem impossible.

I hope my openness, laughter and vulnerability reach you and provides validation through your healing/ Life journey. 🤗 💜

Love,

Abanga Lydia.

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YES I AM BITTER!... Now What?Have been called 'bitter' because you were standing up for yourself and acknowledging your hurt/pain? On this week’s episode 🎙️joins me to explore my process after being called 'bitter' and being told to forgive by a loved one and the conclusion I came to after processing this perspective.I hope my openness, laughter and vulnerability reach you and provides validation through your healing journey. 🤗 💜Love, Abanga Lydia. Reach out with your stories and journey on reforming pessimism at;Email - [email protected] - the_reformingpessimistTikTok - reformingpessimist

What does blackness or being African mean to you? On this weeks episode 🎙️ Jabz (@jabalouujabz ) joins me to talk about our individual journey to getting to a place of confidence in our blackness and Africaness.This is part of the 'We Are Not A Monolith' Series where we discuss alternative experiences that may be familiar to a lot but not seem like the norm. I hope you find some joy and validation in this episode❤️❤️😃.Love, Abanga Lydia & JabzReach out with your stories and journey on reforming pessimism at;Email - [email protected] - the_reformingpessimistTikTok - reformingpessimistJabz Charity- Same Ground https://www.instagram.com/samegroundtanzania?igsh=MXNzdzRnMHQ2ZnI3Mg==

Thank you for tuning into this week’s episode. Your close people are not your therapist!, A lesson I have come to learn the hard way. This week episode 🎙️ I drag myself for being an over-sharer with some empathy and humour of course 😂.

I hope my openness, laughter and vulnerability reach you and provides validation through your healing journey. 🤗 💜

Love,

Abanga Lydia.

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Thank you for tuning into this week’s episode. My most vulnerable episode 🎙️ yet. On this week’s episode I open up about surviving a long term abusive relationship and finally meeting myself at 30 in freedom.

This episode is on my birthday turning 31 and I am really excited for what the future has install for me. I hope my openness, laughter and vulnerability reach you and provides validation through your healing journey. 🤗 💜

Love,

Abanga Lydia.

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Thank you for tuning into this week’s episode. On this week’s episode I explore my experiences with grief and it has broken, built and eternally shaped my outlook on life.

I hope my openness, laughter and vulnerability reach you and provides validation through your healing journey. 🤗 💜

Love,

Abanga Lydia.

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Heya 😊and Thank you for tuning into this week’s episode. On this week’s episode I have a nuanced reflection with my relationship with Christianity and faith, the high, the low and the critical view I have toward the religion. I also open up about how much in all its flaws, how much this faith has served me!

I hope my openness, shade😂 and vulnerability reach you and provides validation through your healing journey. 🤗 💜

Love,

Abanga Lydia.

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Heya 😊and Thank you for tuning into this week’s episode. it’s good to have you. This week’s episode Jabz is back with me to talk about myths and challenges of being either an introvert or extrovert personalities.

This was a fun conversation, I hope you enjoy the episode as much we enjoyed recording it. 🤗 💜

Love, Abanga Lydia & Jabz

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Heya 😊and Thank you for tuning into this week’s episode. it’s good to have you. This week’s episode I explore the topic of Desperation and how it breeds judgement and insecurity. I share my experiences being in decorate places, overcoming slowly and how I now see being desperate as a good thing 👀😂😅.

I hope this episode entertains you and bring you validation 🤗 💜

Love, Abanga Lydia.

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