In this first part of our two-episode series, we take on a topic many in recovery quietly fear: the overlap between addiction and narcissistic traits. Are they connected? Do early patterns of emotional detachment, superiority, and rule-bending feed an addiction, or does addiction reinforce those traits? And what does it really mean when a therapist says you’re showing “narcissistic qualities”?

We explore how control becomes a coping strategy, how addicts often use others for emotional regulation without realizing it, and why these patterns are so common in people who learned early on to hide or ignore their feelings. We also break down the dynamics that show up with spouses and even toddlers, why chaos can feel strangely “calming,” and how external regulation becomes a lifelong pattern.

If you’ve ever feared the narcissistic label or wondered whether these traits tie into your addiction and emotional disconnection, this episode offers clarity, grounding, and hope.