The Relational Intelligence Podcast

In this week's episode we consider how emotional neglect in childhood may be interpreted and later show up in adult relationships. We highlight 5 ways people may be impacted:

1. They may have difficulty processing their emotions

2. They may feel overly responsible for other people's emotions

3. They may seem withdrawn or disconnected

4. They may lean heavily into escapism

5. They may have advanced emotional intelligence

And new this week, we're dropping a question at the end of each episode that can be used to deepen emotional intimacy in one's relationships. Remember, we're here to help one another develop happy, healthy, and fulfilling relationships and that comes with depth, vulnerability, attentiveness, and grace.

Question of the week: What would you say is the most memorable part of your childhood?

In this week's episode we navigate the complex balance between keeping ourselves safe from relational harm and opening ourselves up to experience fulfilling connections. While the walls we've built can keep us safe, they can also keep us hidden.

We're called to guard our hearts and yet open ourselves up to community. How does that work though? Are the walls we've build truly keeping us safe or are they keeping us hidden?

Scripture references in this episode:

Proverbs 4:23, 1 Peter 5:8, Psalm 46:1-3

In this week's episode we discuss the dilemma we often face when looking to determine if a relationship is worth nurturing, maintaining, or releasing. While there is no guidebook to tell us exactly what to do, we can leverage biblical principles and our discernment to determine our steps. We share 6 things we can focus on to determine if we should stay in the relationship:

1. Focus on their heart (1 Samuel 6:17) - is this a person of integrity? Do I trust them?

2. Be equally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14) - are our values and beliefs aligned? Are we headed in a similar direction in life?

3. Associate with the wise (Proverbs 13:20) - are they making me more wise or more foolish? Do they sharpen me or make me dull?

4. Build each other up (1 Thessalonians 5:11; Galatians 6:2) - do they build me up and encourage me? Do they support me in carrying my burdens?

5. Connect with patient people (Proverbs 22:24-25) - are they easily angered? Are they patient with me, others, and even themselves?

6. Have fun together (Ecclesiastes 8:15) - do I laugh and enjoy life with them? can I be my authentic self with them?

Ask yourself these questions and allow God to reveal the path ahead of you 🙏🏽

In this week's episode we dive into Matthew 7:3 that says, "Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?"

We're called to live a life of humility, and that heart posture enables us to continually grow in love with the freedom to make mistakes. A happy, healthy, and fulfilling relationship cannot be nurtured with the presence of pride and absence of self-reflection. We're encouraged to refrain from maximizing the mistakes of our peers and minimizing our own shortcomings. You and I both have the potential to transform into a better version of ourselves each day. But will we take advantage of those opportunities?

Scripture references in this episode:

Galatians 5:22-23, Proverbs 29:23, Galatians 6:4, 1 Corinthians 9:26-27

In this week's episode we discuss how to navigate moments, periods, and seasons when our emotional, mental, or spiritual tanks are empty and we have little to give to our relationships.