Episode 10 -  "Borderline Personality and Narcissistic Personality in a Relationship: Part 2" - In part 2 of this episode, we continue our exploration of what’s likely to happen when a BPD* meets an NPD** and they fall in love.   

Sure these are some mighty attractive people, but what’s the attraction? And they can be some of the smartest people you’ll ever meet, so why can’t they break the fight-fuck cycle?  What’s the long-term likelihood these two will stay together and actually work it out?

In our efforts to illustrate some of the behaviors and relationship dynamics we’re talking about, we refer to popular songs, high profile personalities and or couples, and recognizable pairings from real or fictional relationships.

Tweet us your own #ToxicLove sitings in movies or TV at @AskDrWendy!

*It is important to note, every person is different. The information in this podcast is not meant to be used as a clinical diagnosis.

**Another important thing to point out is that we believe strongly that people are not their diagnoses.  However, in conversation about these personality disorders professionals often resort to shorthand, referring to someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD) as "a borderline" or someone with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) as “a narcissist”.   We are no exception. However, this is a habit you will hear us actively trying to break in this public forum.

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CLIPS:

Madonna - Borderline 

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rSaC-YbSDpo

Macy Gray - Boo - no official video 

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xqWwRnf0eRA

Black Eyed Peas - Shut Up

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KRzMtlZjXpU

Tina Turner - What’s Love Got to Do with It

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGpFcHTxjZs

Everything But the Girl - Rollercoaster  

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FQZNZ44ooZACaro Emerald - That Man 

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e9Xtl22x5Sg

RESOURCES mentioned:

ONLINE - 

Welcome to Oz Forum - 

https://www.bpdcentral.com/faq/family-member

https://www.bpdcentral.com/narcissistic-disorder/hallmarks-of-npd/

https://www.bpdcentral.com/borderline-disorder/hallmarks-of-bpd/

National Alliance on Mental Illness - https://www.nami.org/

BOOKS -

Stop Walking On Eggshells - by Paul T. Mason, MS, and Randi Kreger

http://www.amazon.com/Stop-Walking-Eggshells-Borderline-Personality/dp/1572246901/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1438227586&sr=8-1&keywords=stop+walking+on+eggshells

Stop Walking on Eggshells workbook - by Randi Kreger

http://www.amazon.com/Stop-Walking-Eggshells-Workbook-Personality/dp/1572242760/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1438227586&sr=8-3&keywords=stop+walking+on+eggshells

Disarming the Narcissist - Wendy T. Behary

http://www.amazon.com/Disarming-Narcissist-Surviving-Thriving-Self-Absorbed/dp/1608827607/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1438227696&sr=1-1&keywords=disarming+the+narcissist

DVDs -

Burton and Taylor - DVD

http://www.amazon.com/Burton-Taylor-Helena-Bonham-Carter/dp/B00DC5JVE6/ref=sr_1_1?s=movies-tv&ie=UTF8&qid=1438227738&sr=1-1&keywords=burton+and+taylor

War of The Roses - Blu-ray

http://www.amazon.com/War-Roses-Filmmaker-Signature-Blu-ray/dp/B008YAPQSY/ref=sr_1_1?s=movies-tv&ie=UTF8&qid=1438227770&sr=1-1&keywords=war+of+the+roses+blu+ray