Dr. Kerry McAvoy and Joanne close the week by dissecting why emotionally immature or narcissistic people can appear magnetic at first. They explore the difference between confidence and arrogance — and why confidence does not automatically equal competence.

They talk about “future faking,” control disguised as transparency, and early boundary tests that often get dismissed as harmless immaturity.  Kerry also references Jennie Young and her book,  Burn the Haystack: Decode Dating and dating app red flags that too many people overlook.

The episode includes moments that are absurd - like a wig-demand power play — but the underlying message is serious: dangerous patterns are more common than we want to admit. The goal isn’t revenge. It’s indifference, clarity, and freedom from doing unpaid emotional labor for someone else’s identity.