A Voice of Her Own

The Relentless Pursuit of Perfection with Deva Davisson

Listen Later

Why do we worship perfection? What gives when we pursue it? Why do we compare ourselves and talk harshly to ourselves, and why do we always find ourselves lacking? What does perfectionism steal from us, and what can we do instead?

If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a perfectionism paralysis, or never given yourself the kudos you deserve, this episode is for you. You are enough.

In this episode I discuss:

  • The relationship between perfectionism, procrastination, and paralysis.
  • The nervous system response that perfectionism engenders.
  • The rise in perfectionist tendencies over the last few decades.
  • How social media teaches us to constantly compare ourselves and find ourselves lacking.
  • The rise of perfectionism in a scarcity culture of financial uncertainty.
  • How helicopter parenting can contribute to perfectionist tendencies.
  • The roots of perfectionism in a Puritan society, and how we seek to perfect ourselves to escape sin and death.
  • The Apollonian and Dionysian perceptions of reality, and how our Western obsession with Apollonian values is a perfectionist creed.
  • How perfectionism is a move away from the feminine and the earth.
  • How perfectionism is an attempt to control the human experience, and the negative adaptive behaviors that result from it.
  • Reframing envy and comparison to understand that we are enough, just as we are.
  • Examining our self-talk and catching the critical inner voices before we’re damaged by them.
  • The inability to give ourselves credit and reward, and how we rob ourselves of our most motivating brain chemistry response.
  • The debilitating consequences of being motivated by fear instead of reward.
  • The Takeaway: A three-minute nightly practice to boost dopamine and motivation.

    • Links discussed in this episode:

    Huberman Lab: How to Increase Motivation and Drive 

    Shout-outs:

    Archetypes at Work 

    Neurogan  

    Use this code at checkout to receive 25% off your first order: EQUINOX25

    Scribd 

    Use this link to get 60 days free:

    https://www.scribd.com/g/8w1vki 

    Hungryroot 

    Use this code to get $50 off your first grocery delivery:

    https://www.hungryroot.com/r/A2KV2H 

     

    ...more
    View all episodesView all episodes
    Download on the App Store
    A Voice of Her OwnBy Deva Davisson