The rough edges of self-understanding

Self-understanding is often portrayed as comforting.

But in reality, it can be unsettling.

Clarity removes excuses.

It exposes limits.

Sometimes people feel worse before they feel better.

Not because understanding is harmful.

But because it changes the ground you're standing on.

The goal isn't comfort.

It's coherence.

And coherence often arrives with edges intact.

If clarity has brought discomfort, it doesn't mean something has gone wrong.

It means you're seeing more clearly.

It's okay to feel unsettled while you find your footing.

Understanding doesn't smooth everything.

It helps you live with what's real.