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Struggling to improve your relationships, despite all the healing and spiritual tools you throw at them? In this episode, I reveal the unlock you’re missing is asking great questions. Discover how shifting your inquiry can lead to profound insights and tangible changes in your intimate life.

Without asking great questions, you remain in shame and judgment, hindering growth and connection. This episode presents an opportunity to enhance your emotional well-being and reclaim your power to shift and deepen your relationships. 

Perfect for anyone feeling stuck in their relational dynamics or seeking greater clarity in their intimate lives. 

Key Topics

• What makes up a great question, from the words we use to the way it makes us feel? 

• Examples of shifts from okay to great questions in the realms of sex, intimacy, love, and pleasure 

• A practice to help you take your questions from okay to great

Timestamps/ Chapters

00:27 Intro to Episode 

01:35  Sign up for the Temple’s email list! 

02:30 Personal Example of the Shift with a Great Question

09:35 What makes up a great question? 

16:30 Examples of Good → Great Questions 

22:31 Closing Practice

Connect with Me!I'd love to hear from you and connect in the comments.  Share the most impactful part of this episode- what did you learn, what surprised you, what are you taking forward with you? Or share a question you'd love for me to deep dive on in an episode in the future. 

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You’ve applied somatic tools and seen shifts in your own life. But you’re still wrecking your relationships. Therefore, you have to learn how to apply these tools to your relationships. And that’s what today’s episode is about. 

In this episode, we’ll explore 4 somatic tools: grounding, orienting, titration, and pendulation. I share what each tool is and what it looks like to apply these tools in different relational moments.

At the end, I’ll guide you through a practice that combines these tools. This practice is a nice little “warm up” before you bring these tools in your relationships. 

If you’ve been challenged in bringing your somatic practice into your relationships, then this episode is for you! 

Key Topics

• Grounding returns us to our bodies & experience to create more internal presence & awareness  

• Orienting invites us to become curious about our environment, harnessing a deeper experience of safety 

• Titration can transform conflict and the revealing of our needs when we can identify the bite size piece of our experience that can be held by the relational moment 

• Pendulation expands our capacity for repair, pleasure, and intimacy 

• A guided practice that combines all the tools together to expand our awareness, presence, capacity, and choice

Timestamps

00:00 4 somatic tools to transform relationships

01:24 Tool 1: Grounding

05:51 Sign up the Temple’s email list! 

06:51 Tool 2: Orienting

13:35 Tool 3: Titration

26:21 Tool 4: Pendulation

33:01 How somatic tools create new possibilities in relationships

37:00 Guided practice weaving all the tools together 

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In this episode, I explore the concept of shadow work. I name how our unconscious shadows influence relationships, emotions, and our sense of wholeness. I also share some practical ways to love and integrate the shadow for greater aliveness, love, & power.

Key Topics

• What the shadow is and how it forms

• How our body interacts with our shadow

• Shadow's impact on relationships and intimacy

• Practical methods and tools for working with and loving the shadow

Share Your Questions or ThoughtsI'd love to hear from you and connect in the comments. Share a question you'd love for me to deep dive on in an episode in the future.  Or share the most impactful part of this episode- what did you learn, what surprised you, what are you taking forward with you? 

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Unlock the transformative power of embodiment in today’s episode as I dive deep into the art of integrating knowledge into real-life practice. 

In today’s episode, we’re exploring the importance of embodiment and practice in personal growth, relationships, and self-awareness. Transformation or mastery doesn’t just come from understanding theories but from the repeated practice of applying them in our lives. I break down the three levels of learning: awareness, knowing, and embodiment. And to truly learn something new or to change, we need repetition, patience, and a compassionate approach. 

If you’ve ever felt stuck in your personal development or healing journey—understanding concepts but struggling to embody them—this episode is for you.

Key Topics

• The concept of embodied practice and its importance

• The three levels of learning: understanding, knowing, embodiment

• The role of repetition in mastering new skills or ways of being 

• How relationships and life require a devotion or commitment to practice

I'd love to hear from you and connect in the comments. Share a question you'd love for me to deep dive on in an episode in the future.  Or share the most impactful part of this episode- what did you learn, what surprised you, what are you taking forward with you? 

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In this episode, I shared about my journey from hating Little Ashley to becoming her devotional mother.

I share some of the key principles that helped me become open to her and the inner work we did together afterwards.

I also explore some start points when it comes to starting your inner child healing journey. 

Key Topics

• Impact of unresolved childhood wounds on adult

• Principles to support the inner child healing journey 

• Tools for reconnecting with the inner child 

• The process of building trust with inner child

• Relational possibilities after inner child work 

Chapters

08:05 Impact of Unmet Inner Child in Adult Relationships 

15:45 Recognizing Patterns in Relationships

18:18 Needs We Have as a Child

20:50 My Healing Journey with my Inner Child

28:02 Somatically Meeting the Pain of your Inner Child

30:02 Finding compassion for the Inner Child

33:26 Becoming the Devotional Mother

46:46 Embodiment is Necessary on the Inner Child Healing Journey

48:27 Mapping the Inner Child’s Terrain

51:17 Connecting with the Inner Child with Emotions

54:28 Building Trust with the Inner Child

1:00:13 Effect of Inner Child Healing on Relationships 

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In today’s episode, I talk about how to return to the body by exploring the different layers of the mind-body. Returning to the body helps us foster greater self-awareness, emotional processing, and authentic communication to improve our relationships. I share practical insights on how to work with each layer more fully and intentionally.

Key Topics

• How to work with each layer of the mind- body: thoughts, parts, behaviors, emotions, & sensations

• Recognizing and working with younger parts and protector mechanisms

• The role of emotions and sensations in connecting with the body

• Using movement, sound, and breath to process and release stuck energy

• The relationship between grief and other deep emotions

• The significance of nonverbal communication and energy in relationships

• The alchemical process of integrating the mind and body for greater freedom

Chapters

01:23 We still need the mind 

06:27 The different layers: thoughts, parts, behaviors, emotions, sensations

08:38 Layer 2: Parts 

14:05 Layer 3: Behaviors

18:03 Layer 4: Emotions

22:14 Layer 5: Sensations

24:52 Triggers- Backlog of Unfelt Emotions

27:36 Nonverbal Communication: The Body’s Language

32:32 The Alchemical Bridge of Integrating the Mind & Body 

35:36 Embracing the Duality of Life

37:35 Reflection Questions

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Uncover the transformative power of living your relationships and life as a living ceremony rather than a ritual. 

I explain the concept of living ceremony in this episode. Drawing from my Priestess lineage and the teachings of the late Nicole Christine, I discuss how many of us unconsciously adhere to the rigidity of ritual-  outdated scripts that stifle our true selves, especially in relationships.

Living ceremony invites us into present-moment awareness to embrace the unique journey that is our relationships and life. 

Through this episode, I challenge the idea that there’s a one-size-fits-all approach to life, relationships, and personal growth, inviting us to reimagine how we approach relationships and life.  If you’re feeling constrained by societal expectations or seeking a more authentic way of living and relating, this episode is for you.  

Key Topics 

• Difference between ritual and living ceremony

• How societal rituals promote conformity and limit authenticity

• The concept of living ceremony as a dynamic, present-focused practice

• The relational skills we learn when approaching relationships from ritual vs. living ceremony 

• How living ceremony shifts us towards a more emergent, organic way of relating and creating

Timestamps 

01:32 The difference between ritual and living ceremony

03:22 Ritualistic societal conditioning

05:10 Limitations of ritual in relationships and life

08:24 How living ritualistic limits our relationships 

11:23 The importance of embracing the unknown and mystery

14:04 The collective reckoning in intimacy & relationships 

15:45 Nicole Christine's insights on living ceremony

20:08 Living ceremony invites us into wholeness 

21:18 Examples of what living ceremony looks like in our everyday life 

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In today’s episode, I explore the deep connection between spirituality and relationships, emphasizing that relationship itself is a spiritual practice. I discuss how understanding and living tantra philosophy can help anchor in union consciousness that can lead to profound personal and spiritual evolution.

Key Topics

• Relationship as a spiritual practice

• Understanding tantra and its philosophy 

• Union consciousness and sacred union

• Relational and spiritual work as a path to wholeness

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In today’s episode, I share about the process of developing self-intimacy during times of emotional heaviness and disconnection. I share about my own current exploration of sitting with discomfort, grief, and the wholeness of life, emphasizing the importance of embracing & living all emotions well to foster greater aliveness and intimacy.

Key Topics

• Intimacy is about the wholeness of our experience, even the moments we run away from ourself

• Truly just being with the discomfort of hard emotions

• The unexpected gifts that come out of dark times 

• Returning to wholeness, with yourself and life, by accepting and living all emotions well 

Chapters 01:52 The Garden Metaphor for the relationships within ourself

03:53 The 'Grief Cave' and Facing Challenging Emotions

05:55 Tools and Practices for Emotional Overwhelm

09:13 The Deepening of Internal Senses

11:53 What Is True Intimacy with Yourself

13:48 The Wholeness of Living Our Emotions Well

16:57 The Gift of Holding All Parts of Yourself

20:01 Tending the Inner Garden for Greater Aliveness

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In this final episode of the Coming Home to Intimacy series, we explore how to bring our journey of inner sacred union into partnership. We discuss how partnership uplevels our relational skills, partnership being the third entity & its dynamics, and the co-creation that occurs within relationships. By understanding the opportunities that partnership provides for personal and collective evolution, we can begin to evolve into a new paradigm of partnership and relating. 

Key Topics 

• Using our self-relationship to develop relational skills that we uplevel in partnership 

• The concept of the third entity in relationships 

• The dance of leaning in and out in relationships and its impact on intimacy

• Co-creating in relationship

• Relationship as a tool for spiritual evolution and collective healing

Chapters

02:43 Misconceptions About Relationships

04:26 The Challenge of Relationships

05:29 Upleveling Your Relational Skills

11:43 Partnership: The Third Entity and its Dynamics

15:50 Co-Creation in Relationships

19:49 The Evolution of Partnership

24:13 The Call to Intimacy

Last chance for The Next Intimate Step Session! 

A 1:1 session where we initiate your intimate path to invite in more love, pleasure, and aliveness by shifting one intimacy challenge. 

You want: 

• To love yourself (flaws & all)

• A loving partnership where you’re known, met, safe, and desired 

• Deeper connections that invite forth & celebrate your vulnerability 

• To feel at home in your body 

• A life filled with ease, pleasure, & joy

We’ll work with your challenge through desire mapping, somatic tools, and embodiment processes. We’ll clarify your deepest intimate desire, release fear & resistance around your desire, and step into the one capable of creating & receiving your desire. 

This session is normally $150, but I am offering it for $60 as a podcast launch special. 

Take Your Next Intimate Step 

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