The Safe Space with Dr. Mel — Where the Doc Drops.

Episode 7: Who Am I Between What Was and What’s Next?

What happens when the old version of your life no longer fits—but the new one hasn’t fully arrived yet?

That in-between space can feel confusing.

You’ve left something behind. You know you’re changing. You may even know God is doing something new.

But you’re still asking:

Who am I now?

In this episode of The Safe Space with Dr. Mel, we’re talking about the identity shift that often happens in transition—the space between what was and what’s next.

This is the part of transition people don’t always talk about.

The uncertainty.
The loss of familiar roles.
The temptation to go backward just because the old version of you felt easier to explain.

But the in-between is not wasted space.

It can be the place where clarity is formed, identity is strengthened, and you learn to stop defining yourself only by the season you just left.

Diagnosis: You know you’ve outgrown the old season, but you’re not fully sure who you are in the new one yet.

Doc Drop: You are not required to have a title for every version of yourself while you are becoming.

Prescription: Instead of rushing to define what’s next, take time to notice what is already changing in you. Ask yourself: What am I learning? What am I releasing? What am I no longer willing to carry into my next season?

You may be between what was and what’s next—but you are not without purpose in the middle.

Come in. Sit down. Stay awhile.

This is your Safe Space.

REFLECT. REBUILD. RISE.

Dr. Mel
Life & Leadership Coach
@DrMelBuilds

Sometimes the hardest part of transition isn’t moving.

It’s admitting that where you are no longer fits who you’re becoming.

In this first episode of The Safe Space with Dr. Mel Transition Series, we’re talking about that uncomfortable moment when you begin to realize something has shifted. The job may still look good on paper. The relationship may still be familiar. The role may still make sense to everyone else. But deep down, you know you can’t stay the same.

So how do you know when it’s truly time to move—and when you’re simply frustrated, tired, or uncomfortable?

Dr. Mel unpacks the signs that a season may be ending, what happens when we ignore the internal nudge to move, and why transition often begins long before anything changes on the outside.

Diagnosis: You feel restless, disconnected, or increasingly uncomfortable in a place that once fit you.

Doc Drop: Sometimes discomfort isn’t a sign that something is wrong. Sometimes it’s evidence that you’ve outgrown where you are.

Prescription: Stop asking only, “Can I stay?” and begin asking, “Am I still supposed to?”

Take some time this week to identify where you have been feeling resistance, restlessness, or misalignment. Ask yourself whether you are being called to fix something—or finally release it.

You do not have to know every step before you take the next one.

Come in. Sit down. Stay awhile.

This is your Safe Space.

REFLECT. REBUILD. RISE.

Dr. Mel
Life & Leadership Coach
@DrMelBuilds

Becoming is one thing. Living like the person you’re becoming is another.

In Part 2 of Becoming, Dr. Mel continues the conversation about identity, transition, and growth—this time focusing on what it takes to actually move forward when the old version of you is familiar, but no longer fits.

What happens when you know you’ve changed, but your habits, relationships, confidence, or environment haven’t caught up yet? How do you stop second-guessing your growth and start making decisions that align with where God is leading you?

In this episode, we talk about releasing old patterns, trusting the stretch, choosing alignment over comfort, and giving yourself permission to show up differently in this season.

Diagnosis: You’ve grown, but parts of your life are still connected to who you used to be.

Doc Drop: You cannot become who you’re called to be while constantly negotiating with who you’ve already outgrown.

Prescription: Identify one area where your actions have not caught up with your growth—and make one intentional decision this week that reflects the person you are becoming.

Come in. Sit down. Stay awhile. This is your Safe Space.

REFLECT. REBUILD. RISE.

Dr. Mel | Life & Leadership Coach
@DrMelBuilds

Guest: Safiyyah Joseph-Francois

@ECMovesLLC

Episode 4: Becoming

Who are you becoming in this season—and are you giving yourself permission to meet her?

Transition isn’t only about what you’re leaving behind. It’s also about who you’re becoming along the way.

In this episode of The Safe Space with Dr. Mel, Dr. Mel is joined by the CEO of EC Moves,LLC, Safiyyah Joseph-François and the two talk about the uncomfortable space between who you were and who you’re growing into. The uncertainty. The stretching. The parts of you that no longer fit—and the courage it takes to stop shrinking back into an old version of yourself just because she feels familiar.

This is your reminder: becoming doesn’t require having everything figured out. It requires the courage to keep moving, growing, and trusting God with who you’re becoming.

🎙️ Diagnosis: Recognizing when you’ve outgrown an old version of yourself
💧 Doc Drop: You don’t have to keep being who you were just because people are comfortable with her.
💊 Prescription: Give yourself permission to release, realign, and intentionally step into who you’re becoming.

Come in. Sit down. Stay awhile. This is your Safe Space.

REFLECT. REBUILD. RISE.

Dr. Mel | Life & Leadership Coach
@DrMelBuilds

Safiyyah Joseph-François

@ECMovesLLC

Growth can come with grief. In this episode, Dr. Mel talks about honoring the person you used to be without returning to a version of yourself you have already outgrown. It’s time to acknowledge what she carried, thank her for getting you here, and give yourself permission to become who God is calling you to be.

In Episode 2, “Permission Slips,” Dr. Mel explores why we keep waiting for other people to approve what God has already placed on our hearts. Discover how fear, perfectionism, and people-pleasing can disguise themselves as patience—and why your calling may require movement before validation. It’s time to stop polling the room, write your own permission slip, and take the next faithful step.

When the Person You’ve Been Performing No Longer Fits

What happens when the roles you’ve played for everyone else start to overshadow who you really are? In this first episode of The Safe Space with Dr. Mel, we unpack identity, performance, and the courage it takes to release an expired version of yourself. Grounded in Romans 12:2 and insights from The 12 Week Year, Dr. Mel challenges you to stop asking only, “Who have I been?” and start asking, “Who is God calling me to become?”

Come for the conversation. Leave with your prescription. 💧🦋