Regarding projected pain, it is better to give back than receive. When you experience anger, jealousy, shame, guilt, and the like, or when your emotions and feelings go to another level (e.g., blaming, badgering yourself and others in thoughts and words, and unwelcome or unhealthy physical contact), you continually grow the seeds inside you. 

We can return angry, hateful, divisive, and demoralizing actions and words to their rightful owner before they take root and encourage our children to do the same.

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