The Self-ish Me Podcast

You have been told a career pivot means starting from nothing, that stepping away from climbing the career ladder means throwing away everything you have built. And if you’re in your late 30s, changing careers can sound like an especially risky decision. But what if it isn’t starting over at all? What if you’re simply taking everything you’ve learned and using it differently? This episode dismantles that script for good.

Kamila is joined by Kim Taylor to explore portfolio careers, career confidence, and a self discovery journey that shows why chasing the next promotion is not always the goal, and why good enough really is good enough.

You will walk away with:

• A reframe for the fear of starting over, with proof your existing skills transfer further than you think
• A practical way to test a career pivot before you commit, from part time work to small side projects
• Language to explain career gaps, short contracts or non-traditional paths with confidence at interview, and permission to let go of societal expectations about what a 'proper' career should look like
• A clear way to weigh the financial trade offs of any career change
• Permission to stop climbing a ladder you never wanted, and redefine career growth for women on your own terms

Kim is an independent leadership and management trainer, facilitator and coach with over ten years in learning and development, whose own career pivot took her from blue chip corporates to teaching swimming. Kamila is a business psychologist and career coach who has built her own portfolio across learning and development, people management and yoga teaching. Press play if you are ready to stop living by someone else's script.

This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you.

If this episode has inspired you to go after the job you really want, here’s how to prepare for your interview and put your best foot forward. Interview Preparation That Actually Works: What Hiring Managers Never Tell You

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Website www.withkim.co.uk
LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/in/kimtaylormcr
Insta @swimwithkimmcr

What do I actually want?

This episode is a little different.

After spending the summer thinking about what I want Self-ish Me to become, I’m finally sharing a decision about the future of the podcast — and why it feels like such a fitting next step for everything Self-ish Me has always been about.

I’m taking you back to why I started this podcast in the first place: questioning the expectations we’ve been given, choosing ourselves, and figuring out what actually feels like us.

I’m also sharing what’s changing, why I’m moving to one guest episode a month, and the slightly scary new chapter I’m creating alongside the podcast.

And throughout it all, there’s one question I’ve been coming back to again and again:

What do I actually want?

Not what should I want.
Not what makes the most sense on paper.
Not what everyone else thinks I should do.

What do I actually want?

Maybe that’s a question worth sitting with yourself.

Here’s to being a little more selfish, and a lot more ourselves. 🤍

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Shame is something most of us have experienced, but we don’t always talk about where it comes from.

Sometimes we feel shame about our bodies. About our choices. About the things that happened to us. And sometimes, we carry shame for things that were never ours to carry in the first place.

Dr. Connie Kerali spent years in silence after being raped before choosing to speak her story publicly. In this deeply honest conversation, we explore the shame that surrounds sexual violence, the myths that make women question themselves, and the long, non-linear journey of finding your voice again.

You will walk away with:

• A clear understanding of rape myths and how societal conditioning keeps survivors silent and self-blaming
• The reminder that there is no 'right' timeline for sharing your story or starting therapy
• An honest look at what therapy really feels like in the early stages and why things often get harder before they get easier
• Practical anchors for self-compassion and rebuilding self-trust when shame is loudest
• The belief that the healing begins when the hiding ends
  

Dr. Connie Kerali is a medical doctor with over 15 years of experience, a transformational life coach, clinical hypnotherapist, and host of the Speak Shame podcast, where she creates a safe space for women to speak their truth.

In this episode, Kamila opens up about her own relationship with shame — from staying quiet about painful periods to the shame that came with burnout and feeling like she should have known better. She shares what therapy felt like in those first months and the slow, unglamorous process of rebuilding.

This one is personal, and that is exactly what makes it worth pressing play.

This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest conversations that give them the courage to take the first step. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, understand what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you.

If you have been a victim of sexual assault or violence, you can contact:

• The Survivors Trust
• NO MORE Global Directory
• Rape Crisis England & Wales
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  Podcast Speak Shame with Dr Connie Kerali

Somewhere between becoming a manager, becoming a parent, getting divorced, changing careers or simply moving somewhere new, you stopped feeling entirely like yourself, and never talked about it. In this episode, Kamila is rediscovering identity out loud, using her own move to Kenya as the entry point into a question most of us quietly live with: who are we when the ground shifts.

She unpacks what happens to our sense of self when a role, relationship or environment changes, why this self discovery journey rarely gets named, and how the fear of not belonging quietly steers decisions we don't notice we're making.

You will walk away with:

• A clear psychological definition of identity, and why it depends on continuity rather than staying the same.
• Brené Brown's distinction between fitting in and belonging, and why confusing the two is exhausting.
• The idea of social identity, and why your roles shape your self-identity more than you realise.
• A simple experiment for rediscovering identity after any life transition, without needing everyone's approval.
• A new question to ask before adjusting yourself for a group: can I be fully myself here, not just accepted.

Kamila is a Business Psychologist with ten years in Learning and Development, living her own rediscovering identity journey in real time. If you have been trying to impress people instead of expressing who you are, press play, this one might reframe belonging and authenticity for good.

This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you.

Check out the Values and Decision Making episode.

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We all make decisions based on something, most likely our values. But what if we told you the values running your biggest decisions were never yours to begin with? They might be coming from your parents', your culture's, or your religion's, values you inherited so early you never thought to question whether they were actually yours.

This week, Kamila unpacks values and decision making as her personal framework for navigating hard choices, sparked by a listener question on burnout recovery. It's part of her wider work on untangling societal conditioning from the choices that are actually yours.

You will walk away with:

• A three-question exercise to identify your own top five values, fast and without overthinking
• How to spot which of your "values" are conditioning in disguise, and which are genuinely yours
• A reframe of burnout recovery as a forced pause rather than a personal failure
• A repeatable way to use values and decision making together as your internal compass for whatever comes next

Kamila is a Business Psychologist and coach whose work centres on reclaiming personal power and practical tools for women navigating change. Press play if you are ready to put values and decision making into practice in your own life.

This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you.

Connect with Kamila

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Email [email protected]

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Whether the change you are making is big or small, there is a messy middle waiting for you, full of doubt, low confidence, and uncertainty. It can make you feel like you are failing, or like you should have stayed with what you knew, the old job, the home, the friendship, the relationship, the belief. But deep down you knew it was no longer serving you, and that is why you chose to change.

Today, Kamila takes you through the part of change nobody talks about, the messy middle, using Lewin's three stage model, unfreeze, change, refreeze, to explain why it exists. She is speaking from inside it herself, five days into moving from London to Nairobi.

You will walk away with:

• A simple framework for understanding why the messy middle exists and feels so uncomfortable
• Permission to grieve what you are letting go of, even when you chose the change
• Practical tools for self-discovery that rebuild self trust when confidence dips
• One or two grounding habits to anchor you when everything else feels uncertain

Kamila is a Business Psychologist and coach with ten years in learning and development, bringing that lens to her own experience of the messy middle. Press play if you need someone to tell you that what you are feeling is normal, and that you are not failing, you are becoming.

This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you.

If you would like more practical ways to boost your joy and happiness, check out this episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/001BaK7DXAcV3FlU2gSvi3?si=GPXRgKzRRTePk4LSCf4xKA
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You can be lonely in a relationship and happy single. You can take a step back in your career and feel more like yourself than ever. The world has a script for what success looks like for women, and this episode is about tearing it up.

Alice helps people get brave enough to define success on their own terms and actually go after it. As a TEDx speaker, keynote and facilitator who has worked with teams at Google, Deliveroo and Tesco, she brings that same spirit of women's empowerment and honesty about women's careers, motherhood and navigating relationships to this conversation with Kamila. Nothing is off limits.

You will walk away with:

• A reframe on why staying in the wrong relationship (or the wrong role) is conditioning, not weakness
• How Alice turned a career demotion into the pivot that changed everything, by choosing authenticity over the safe path
• What trade-offs in motherhood and women's careers can look like when you stop following someone else's timeline
• A self-compassion practice rooted in gratitude that the research says actually makes you happier
• Why showing up as yourself, online and at work, is both the bravest and most strategic thing you can do
  

In this episode, Kamila also shares her own experience of walking away from a seven-year relationship, freezing her eggs to take the pressure off the biological clock, and stepping back from career momentum for burnout recovery and to prioritise her own wellbeing. Alice brings her own version of that story: how staying too long in the wrong relationship, a demotion at Deliveroo and the courage to finally define success on her own terms became the beginning of a completely new chapter, and the fuel for everything that followed, including the TEDx stage.

This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health.

You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you.

Connect with Kam

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Connect with Alice
Website www.badassunicorn.co.uk,
LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alice-ter-haar/

You can know every one of your own anxiety red flags and still miss the exact moment you needed to stop. Kamila unpacks the months that led to her taking sick leave, a relocation, family news, physical illness, and one stressful event after another, until catastrophic thoughts convinced her she was about to lose everything she had built.

This episode looks at what happens when you miss your own warning signs, and what it actually takes to help an overwhelmed nervous system recover afterwards. She shares Cognitive Restructuring, the CBT technique she used to challenge her anxious brain and separate the story from the evidence, why burnout recovery means actively helping your nervous system out of fight or flight, and why noticing anxiety red flags early does not always mean you will act on them in time, especially when an old belief is quietly shaping when and how you respond to them.

You will walk away with:

• A simple two question technique to interrupt catastrophic thinking
• How to recognise your own anxiety red flags before they escalate
• Why an old belief can shape when and how you act on your own warning signs
• What it actually takes to help an overwhelmed nervous system recover

Kamila is a Business Psychologist and coach with a decade of experience in Learning and Development. At the end of the episode, she finally shares why she is moving to Kenya. Press play before your next red flag goes unnoticed.

This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you.
Connect with Kamila

Insta @coachingwithkam
Email [email protected]

LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

Most of us never agreed to the life milestones. We inherited them, through fairy tales, family comments, and the quiet pressure of 'when are you getting married?', and then spent years measuring our worth against a script we did not choose.

In this episode, I am sharing how chasing a borrowed version of success, the career, the relationship status, the milestones that make a life look 'right' from the outside, led me to burnout. And how therapy, and eventually a move to Kenya at 38, helped me start writing my own story instead.

You will walk away with:

• A name for the invisible script running underneath your choices
• A new lens on burnout, as an identity crisis, not just overwork
• Permission to question the milestones you thought you wanted
  

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt behind on a timeline they did not write. Kamila is a Business Psychologist and coach with decade of experience in Learning and Development. If overcoming societal expectations and finally choosing your own life sounds like the conversation you need right now, press play.

This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you.
Connect with Kam

Insta @coachingwithkam
Email [email protected]

LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

You have been doing everything 'right' and still felt like your life was not quite yours. That is not a personal failure. That is what happens when you spend years living by scripts you never chose.

In this six-month anniversary episode, I am sharing the part of my story I did not have the words for until now. The layer underneath all the tools, the research, and the conversations we have been having. The invisible scripts that quietly run our lives, and what it actually takes to start questioning them.

You will walk away with:

• An honest look at what underlying scripts are, where they come from, and why they stop feeling like opinions and start feeling like facts
• Kamila's personal story of burnout, grief, and the moment she started asking "whose life am I actually living?"
• An understanding of why so many of our struggles are not personal failures but the result of conditioning, culture, and history
• A new question to carry with you this week: not "what is wrong with me" but "where did this belief come from"

Kamila is a Business Psychologist and coach who rebuilt her life after burnout by unlearning the scripts she had inherited, and now helps women do the same. If something in your life has been feeling more like a performance than a choice, this episode is where we begin.

This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you.

If you want to hear about the experiments I have mentioned today check out:
Do I Want Children: Or Was I Raised to Want Them?https://open.spotify.com/episode/5k0378TvRNkh3kKR06skZEsi=uhDwOnKTSZiiujJCQoVxIA

Rewriting the Story of Female Pleasure https://open.spotify.com/episode/4l9nJ5muVOU0Mv4T2y3olH?si=Gu7siM4hTbSJqfIKpiZ32w

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