All sexual inappropriateness has a cause --  getting to the root of that cause is like trying to unravel of ball of yarn that your cat got into.  I am making a scarf right now for a friend of mine for Christmas and my daughter's cat got into my yarn basket --  I may never get it straightened out in order to finish the scarf!     The biggest problem is that the yarn is connected to the scarf --  If I had loose ends at each end, I would have a better chance of getting it unraveled.   But to do that, I would have to unravel the scarf!    And I've got 3 weeks of effort invested that havs it almost finished!   Kinda like God making a man -- and creating him to procreate -- we don't want to start over at this point, do we?