You Contain Multitudes

The Single Most Important Tool For Creating an Intentional Relationship

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One of the most powerful tools that I have developed and used with my clients is an Intentional Relationship Covenant, or a set of non-negotiable agreements that you make with yourself. This contract is an anchor that helps you become more aware and really show up in a way that is consistent with your values and priorities as a person relating with other people on the planet. These principles help us choose higher integrity forms of relating and cultivate intentional, mature, and regenerative relationships.

In today's episode, I’m sharing the fourteen commitments on my list and a brief explanation behind each one. I touch on the impact this practice has had on my partnerships, how this contract has improved the quality of my life and relationships, and tips for creating your own list.

Here is my Intentional Relationship Covenant:

  1. See things as they are.
  2. Communicate courageously.
  3. Set healthy boundaries with myself and others.
  4. Uphold agreements.
  5. Let others be responsible for how they show up.
  6. Choose courage over fear, and choose love over fear.
  7. Own my own wellbeing.
  8. Open my heart and lean in when I most want to protect and pull away.
  9. Am I planting seeds now for the culture I want to share with this person?
  10. Remember that the other person has a history of heartbreak that also needs healing.
  11. Bet on the connection to be able to handle problems. Choose to be collaborators, not antagonists, always.
  12. Choose grace and compassion for them, and for me.
  13. Apologize as soon as possible and attend to the repairs that are needed.
  14. Remember that you are inherently lovable. You do not need to help anyone to choose you. Someone who is able and ready will be clear and their intentions and act accordingly.

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    Topics Covered:

    • The reason why it's so powerful that you make these agreements with yourself
    • How to get started with creating your own Intentional Relationship Covenant
    • The story behind how and why I came up with this tool
    • Examples of covenants that I’ve helped clients customize
    • Details about my personal Intentional Relationship Covenant
    • Why it’s vital that these commitments are non-negotiable

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        You Contain MultitudesBy Theora Moench
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