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Julius explores how different communities operate similarly despite their diverse interests and activities. He dives into his experiences navigating kink, board games, non-monogamy, geek culture, and improv communities, highlighting the universal patterns that emerge in each social group.

• All communities have an approximately 90-day "probationary period" before truly accepting new members
• People need to see you consistently show up before they open their inner circle 
• Bad actors and creepy people don't last long in any community regardless of focus
• Finding your specific tribe within the larger community takes time but is worth the effort
• Communities we choose often provide acceptance we didn't find in communities we were born into
• Being quiet and not engaging socially makes integration much harder
• Persistence is key - sometimes it takes years to find your specific people within a community

If you want to join a new community, just go! Keep showing up, develop social capital by talking to people, and don't get discouraged if acceptance takes time. Email your questions to [email protected].

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