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The Stories We Tell Ourselves - Unlocking Old Narratives


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Why does meaningful change feel so hard, even when we know we want it? 

In this episode, Alicia Dee explores one of the biggest reasons we stay stuck: the stories we tell ourselves. 

Alicia breaks down how our brains are naturally wired to protect us, how our old narratives can feel like facts, but rarely are the full story, and how to widen the lens so you can see new possibilities. You’ll learn a practical “balcony” technique to separate facts from the story you’re layering on top, and a powerful gratitude reframe Alicia calls catching life going right to shift your nervous system, your mindset, and your ability to move forward.

If you’re entering a new season and feeling the pull toward something different, this episode will help you shift your thinking and reconnect with what’s possible.

In This Episode, We Cover

  • Why change can feel scary and why it’s often our "story", not reality, that keeps us stuck
  • How our brains are wired toward negativity to protect us, and how that can keep us “small”
  • The “camera lens” metaphor: what happens when you’re zoomed in too tightly on one belief. It may be time to widen the aperture to see a fuller picture of what's going on in your life.
  • The Balcony Exercise: how to become a non-judgmental observer and separate facts from interpretation so you can gain perspective on your current state and open up possibilities
  • A gratitude reframe that’s not performative: “catching life going right”
  • How gratitude helps your nervous system shift from fight/flight/freeze into rest-and-digest and a feeling of safety
  • Why intentions work better than resolutions - because aligning to a new identity is much more powerful than willpower
  • Understand the part of your brain called the Reticular Activating System (RAS): how your brain filters what you notice based on what you focus on
  • Reflection questions to help you release an old story and choose a new one to align to the changes you want to make in your life and career.

Reflection Questions (from the episode)

  1. What story have I been telling myself about my life and/or career that I’m ready to release?
  2. What part of that story is actually true - what are the facts? vs my story?
  3. What do I want to believe instead? What new story am I ready to align with?

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If this conversation resonates and you’re feeling a bit stuck or at a crossroads, I offer a complimentary 30-minute Career Clarity - ConnectionCall. It’s a chance to talk through where you are, what you’re wanting more of,

Curious about working with ThriveWorthy? If this conversation stirred something in you, and you are thinking about what's next, you don’t have to navigate it alone. 

Book a complimentary Career Clarity Call to learn how ThriveWorthy can support you: https://calendly.com/alicia-thriveworthy/30min

We’ll talk about where you are now and what you desire next and we can explore how ThriveWorthy can support you. We offer both group and 1 to 1 coaching and we are continuing to expand our offerings. If nothing else, these clarity calls are an insightful 30 min where we focus solely on YOUR needs. How often do you get that?!

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The ThriveWorthy PodcastBy Alicia Dee