You’ve done the inner work. You know your strengths and values. So why does a quiet question linger: “Is this it?” For busy mothers transitioning from a purpose woven into family life, the search for new significance can feel disorienting. In this final Legacy Library episode, clinical psychologist and coach Rosie van der Loos offers a profound answer. Moving beyond the Western pressure for a single “world-changing” purpose, Rosie introduces the authentic Japanese concept of ikigai—your personal, everyday reason for being. Paired with the essential emotional boundary of ‘Let Them Theory’ (rooted in the “Separation of Tasks”), this synthesis provides the gentle meaning and firm freedom needed to design your next chapter. Discover how to find significance in savoring, not sacrificing, and learn the simple, four-part rhythm to protect your joy and build a legacy of depth and fullness starting today.

Resources & Links Mentioned:

• Book: Ikigai: Giving Every Day Meaning and Joy by Yukari Mitsuhashi 

• Book: Let Them Theory https://www.melrobbins.com/book/the-let-them-theory/  

• Book: The Courage to Be Disliked https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/43306206-the-courage-to-be-disliked 

• Previous Episode: Episode 8: Your Current Self Snapshot - Referenced as a key tool for discovering ikigai clues.

• Connect with Rosie: https://www.strategictransformation.com.au/ https://www.instagram.com/strategic.transformation
  

DISCLAIMER: The content shared on The Strategic Transformation Podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your own qualified healthcare provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical or mental health condition.

Feeling stuck, flat, or unsure of your direction now that your children need you differently? You’re not alone. This episode is your guide out of the paralysis. Introducing The Curiosity Compass—a revolutionary, low-risk framework for mothers navigating the "what's next?" chapter. Learn the "Prototype, Not Pivot" mindset and the exact 4-step process to test new interests without upending your life. If you're feeling too emotionally flat or grieving the end of the hands-on parenting years to even start, we cover that too with compassionate, science-backed strategies to gently reawaken your curiosity. This is your roadmap from feeling lost to taking your first, safe, purposeful step.

Key Takeaways:

• The "Prototype, Not Pivot" Mindset: Shift from fearing a wrong turn to becoming a scientist of your own potential.

• The Curiosity Experiment Framework: A 4-step process (Identify, Design, Learn, Reflect) to test any spark from your Identity Snapshot with near-zero risk.

• Case Study - The Family Historian: See how a "failed" experiment led to a beautiful, sustainable legacy project (not a business!).

• Curiosity Curation for When You Feel Flat: Three practical "doors in" (The Energy Audit, The Dopamine Menu, Borrowing Curiosity) to gently reactivate your nervous system.

• Honouring Grief & Health: Why acknowledging the loss of your former mothering role is essential, and why a medical check-up is your non-negotiable first step.

Links & Resources Mentioned:

• Episode 8: The Identity Excavation (Create your Current Self Snapshot first)

• Dr. Andrew Huberman's work on dopamine and the nervous system https://www.hubermanlab.com/newsletter/tools-to-manage-dopamine-and-improve-motivation-and-drive 

• VIA Character Strengths Survey (from Episode 8) https://www.viacharacter.org/ 

• Connect with Rosie: https://www.strategictransformation.com.au/ https://www.instagram.com/strategic.transformation/

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Feeling lost or adrift now that your children need you differently? You're not starting from scratch—you're in a "narrative gap." In this powerful episode, Rosie van der Loos guides you through a compassionate and practical Post-Motherhood Identity Audit. Move from a vague sense of being "just a mum" to a concrete, multifaceted understanding of who you are. Learn the tools of Strength Archaeology, Values Recovery, and Interest Archaeology to unearth your signature strengths, core values, and dormant curiosities. You'll end the episode with a "Current Self Snapshot"—the essential raw materials for designing your next chapter with clarity and confidence. Perfect for mothers in midlife seeking to reconnect with themselves and build a purposeful identity beyond caregiving.

• Reframe "Lost" as a Narrative Gap: Understand why you feel adrift and how to see it as a transition, not a deficit.

• Strength Archaeology: Discover how to identify your core character strengths in everyday moments and use the VIA Survey to map your unique profile.

• Values Recovery: Learn to use your irritation as a clue to your non-negotiable values and try the powerful 80th Birthday Exercise to define your legacy of character.

• Interest Archaeology: Get practical strategies to excavate old passions and discover new ones through low-pressure micro-experiments.

• The "And" Principle: Build a layered, resilient identity (Mother and Creator and Connector) instead of trying to replace "mother" with a single new label.

• Create Your Current Self Snapshot: Synthesise your findings into a one-page document that serves as the foundation for all your future legacy-building.

• VIA Institute on Character: Free Survey – Take the free, scientifically validated Character Strengths assessment.

• Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi (Flow Theory) https://www.pursuit-of-happiness.org/history-of-happiness/mihaly-csikszentmihalyi/ 

• Dr. Andrew Huberman's protocols on circadian rhythm and sunlight exposure. https://www.hubermanlab.com/topics/light-exposure-and-circadian-rhythm 

• Values List (Brené Brown) https://brenebrown.com/resources/dare-to-lead-list-of-values/ 

• Activities to use your Signature Strengths in new ways https://www.viacharacter.org/topics/articles/tips-for-using-each-character-strength-in-a-new-way 

• Future Self Connection https://www.halhershfield.com/yourfutureself 

• Connect with Rosie: https://www.strategictransformation.com.au/ https://www.instagram.com/strategic.transformation/

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Feeling alone in your ambitions? Building a legacy or creating the next chapter of your life is not a solo sport. In this powerful episode, Rosie van der Loos dismantles the "solo heroine" myth with hard science and actionable strategy. Discover the #1 predictor of lifelong health and happiness from the landmark Harvard Study of Adult Development. Dive into the neurochemistry of connection and learn why your brain's ability to build and create is hardwired to your sense of support. You'll learn to audit your inner circle, identify the 3 essential roles (The Anchor, The Catalyst, The Mirror) in your Legacy Ecosystem, and master the "Vulnerability-Based Ask"—a way to seek help that builds alliances, not debt. Essential listening for any woman ready to build her dreams on a foundation of genuine connection, not isolation.

Key Takeaways:

• The Harvard Study Revelation: The single, most critical factor for a long, healthy, and happy life.

• Your Brain on Connection: How oxytocin, dopamine, and safety mode unlock your creative, legacy-building brain.

• The 3-Test Audit: How to quickly assess if your inner circle are genuine allies or energy drains.

• Your Legacy Ecosystem: How to identify and recruit your Anchor (Safe Harbour), Catalyst (Sparring Partner), and Mirror (Truth-Teller).

• The Vulnerability-Based Ask Framework: A 4-step script to ask for support with grace and strength, ensuring you feel empowered, not indebted.

• From Burnout to Shared Mission: A case study on transforming a dream from a secret burden into a source of collective pride.

Links & Resources Mentioned:

• Harvard Study of Adult Development https://www.adultdevelopmentstudy.org/

• Connect with Rosie at https://www.strategictransformation.com.au/

DISCLAIMER:The content shared on The Strategic Transformation Podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your own qualified healthcare provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical or mental health condition.

Struggle to start or stick with your goals? You're not lacking willpower—you might be missing the right operating system. In this foundational episode of the Legacy Library series, Rosie van der Loos fuses two giants of behavioral science: James Clear's Atomic Habits and Carol Dweck's Mindset. Learn how to build "Legacy-Grade Habits" that transform not just what you do, but who you become. Discover the "Growth Loop"—a simple, self-reinforcing engine that combines foolproof habit architecture with a resilience-building mindset. Perfect for busy mothers, aspiring entrepreneurs, and anyone ready to move from wishing to building with consistency and self-compassion.

Key Takeaways:

• The Growth Loop: How to combine Atomic Habits' Four Laws with a Growth Mindset to create habits that last.

• Legacy-Grade vs. Ordinary Habits: Understand the three special attributes that turn a simple routine into an identity-building ritual.

• Troubleshooting Your System: Fix the 3 most common habit breakdowns (like "it feels silly" or "I forgot").

• The Motherhood Mindset Hack: Learn how you already run "Growth Loops" with your children—and how to turn that skill inward on your own dreams.

• From "Writer" to "Person Who Writes": A practical case study on using the Loop to build an empowering identity, one tiny action at a time.

Links & Resources Mentioned:

• Atomic Habits by James Clear https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits 

• Mindset by Carol Dweck https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/40745.Mindset

• https://www.strategictransformation.com.au/

• Connect with Rosie on https://www.instagram.com/strategic.transformation/

DISCLAIMER:The content shared on The Strategic Transformation Podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your own qualified healthcare provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical or mental health condition.

Why do you set goals but struggle to follow through? The problem isn't willpower—it's broken self-trust. In this episode, Clinical Psychologist and Mindset Coach Rosie van der Loos introduces The Integrity Engine, a neuroscience-backed system to repair your relationship with yourself. Learn why breaking micro-promises is a form of psychological self-sabotage more damaging than any critic, and how it wires your brain for failure. Discover the three pillars of self-trust—Clarity, Capability, and Consistency—and get the simple, daily Integrity Pact tool to rebuild your identity as someone who does what she says she will do. This is the foundational practice for moving from inspiration to execution, and becoming your own most reliable ally in building your legacy.

Key Topics: Self-trust, integrity, neuroscience of habits, self-sabotage, predictive coding, dopamine, self-efficacy, Identity change, micro-habits, personal leadership, psychology of follow-through.

Listen to Episode 5 to learn:

• The clinical reason why breaking promises to yourself erodes motivation.

• How to use the Integrity Pact—a 5-minute daily practice—to rewire your brain for reliability.

• How to troubleshoot common failures with a Growth Mindset, not self-criticism.

• Why this engine is the non-negotiable foundation for any meaningful project or legacy.

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You've built the perfect schedule and set the boundaries, but a louder voice is stopping you: the one in your head. That voice saying, "Who do you think you are? This is selfish. You're not good enough." This is your Inner Saboteur, and it's the ultimate legacy killer. In this episode, Clinical Psychologist Rosie van der Loos reveals the 3 common saboteur archetypes—The Imposter, The Martyr, and The Perfectionist—and the neuroscience behind why their lies feel so true. You'll get a simple, powerful 3-step framework ("Name, Validate, Reframe") to disarm these thoughts in real-time. This isn't about positive thinking; it's about accurate thinking. Learn how to silence the saboteur and finally build the legacy you're capable of.

Key Takeaways:

Identify Your Saboteur: Learn the 3 most common protective stories—The Imposter, The Martyr, and The Perfectionist—and how they keep you safe-  but stuck.

The Neuroscience of Self-Doubt: Understand how your Amygdala and Default Mode Network team up to make critical thoughts feel physically real and true.

The "Name, Validate, Reframe" Framework: A 3-step cognitive technique to detach from sabotaging thoughts and choose empowering ones.

Grow Your "Tenacity Muscle": Learn how defying your saboteur physically strengthens your brain's Anterior Mid-Cingulate Cortex (AMCC) for grit and resilience.

The Case Study "Dee": See the NVR framework in action to overcome paralyzing perfectionism and martyrdom.

Resources & Links Mentioned:

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT): The therapeutic foundation for the "Name, Validate, Reframe" technique. https://www.actmindfully.com.au/

www.strategictransformation.com.au

DISCLAIMER:

The content shared on The Strategic Transformation Podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your own qualified healthcare provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical or mental health condition.

Feeling like you're constantly managing chaos instead of building your legacy? That flicker of motivation dies almost instantly under the weight of laundry, notifications, and the distant cry from across the house from someone who needs you to do something.

This isn't a personal failure—it's a systems failure. In this powerful episode, Clinical Psychologist and Mindset & Performance Coach Rosie van der Loos gives you the blueprint to redesign your daily operating system. Learn how to implement Purpose-First Time-Blocking, conduct a Strategic Energy Audit, and use simple Boundary Scripts to protect your time and focus. It’s time to move from ignition to implementation and build the architecture that turns your vision into reality.

Key Takeaways:

- The "Systems Failure" Reframe: Understand why your struggle isn't a lack of willpower, but an outdated operating system.

- The 3-Part Operational Overhaul System: A simple, actionable framework to reclaim control of your time, energy, and focus.

- Purpose-First Time-Blocking: Learn how to schedule your legacy-building work first and build your day around it, strengthening your brain's executive function in the process.

- Strategic Energy Management: Discover how to work with your body's natural ultradian rhythms to avoid burnout and achieve more with less effort.

- Boundary Scripts (The BRIEF Formula): Get the exact words to protect your new systems without guilt, and learn the neuroscience behind why setting boundaries literally builds your "tenacity muscle."

Resources & Links Mentioned:

Brigid Schulte: Time Confetti https://www.brigidschulte.com/

Mel Robbins: Let Them Theory https://www.hubermanlab.com/nsdr

Huberman Lab: NSDR https://www.hubermanlab.com/nsdr

BRIEF Formula www.strategictransformation.com.au

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Do you know what's you need to change but still feel flat and stuck in a rut? You've identified the problems, but you're trapped in a state of languishing—that foggy, stagnant space between depression and wellbeing.

In this episode of The Strategic Transformation Podcast, Clinical Psychologist Rosie van der Loos delivers a wellbeing antidote: a powerful, practical solution based on Barbara Fredrickson's Broaden and Build Theory.

You will discover:

• The exact brain mechanism that keeps you in a cycle of languishing and how to reverse it to create an upward spiral of growth.

• The 4 "Positivity Micro-Doses": Practical, science-backed actions for Curiosity, Connection, Mastery, and Awe that you can implement in 5 minutes or less to start to reshape your brain's architecture.

• The surprising link between positive emotions and grit: How micro-moments of joy fuel the passion and perseverance you need to achieve your biggest goals.

• The neuroscience of "Panoramic Vision": A simple visual technique to switch your brain from a state of stress and narrow focus to one of safety, creativity, and expanded awareness.

• How to overcome the inner critic and build a resilient growth mindset by gathering evidence through small, consistent actions.

This episode is your guide to clearing the fog, finding your creative spark, and building the psychological resources you need to architect a legacy you're excited to live.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Broaden and Build Theory (Barbara Fredrickson) https://scottbarrykaufman.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/Fredrickson-2005.pdf

• Grit (Angela Duckworth) https://angeladuckworth.com/

• Growth Mindset (Carol Dweck) https://themindsetonline.com/ 

Conduct your own Founder’s Audit and download your free Life Balance Sheet https://www.strategictransformation.com.au/

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Are you a mother of tweens or teens feeling stuck on the hamster wheel? You know you're capable of more, but you can't find the energy or focus to build it. That sense of stagnation has a name: languishing.

In this foundational episode of The Strategic Transformation Podcast, your host- Clinical Psychologist, Mindset & Performance Coach Rosie van der Loos introduces a powerful, science-backed starting point to turn languishing into legacy. This isn't about bubble baths and affirmations; it's about a strategic audit of your life's foundation.

You will discover:

• Why willpower isn't the problem: Learn the real, physiological reason you feel stuck and how to fix the crumbling foundation that's holding you back.

• The Strategic Wellbeing Cornerstones Framework: Rosie introduces the four non-negotiable pillars of a high-performing, purpose-filled life—Physical, Mental, Social, and Purpose.

• A simple "Pulse Check" exercise: How to identify which cornerstone will give you the biggest return on your investment for your energy and focus.

• The "Kaizen" micro-action method: How one tiny, strategic step can create a positive ripple effect across your entire life, building immediate momentum.

This episode is your call to stop sacrificing your wellbeing and start treating it as the strategic operating system for everything you want to build.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Martin Seligman https://ppc.sas.upenn.edu/people/martin-ep-seligman 

• Download your free Life Balance Sheet Worksheet to conduct your own Founder's Audit. https://www.strategictransformation.com.au

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The content shared on The Strategic Transformation Podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your own qualified healthcare provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical or mental health condition.