You’ll note three things in my response. 

1) I didn’t back off from my initial assertion. Nothing kills tingles faster than defensiveness or apologia. 

2) I continued the ruse under the assumption that my insidious neg was actually a compliment.

3) I added the qualifier “usually” as a means of keeping her hamster in full throttle spin mode.

Negs often can be as simple as one-word descriptions that are as easily interpreted as unflattering observations as they are as compliments; and therein lies their effectiveness...

"modest.

strict.

humble.

wallflower.

unassuming.

strait-laced.

serious.

responsible.

introverted.

conservative.

upright.

polite.

proper.

good person.

moral.

respectable.

hard-headed.

nonconformist.

don’t care about other people’s opinions.

fastidious.

overeager.

excited to be here.

innocent.

out of her element.

guarded.

social butterfly.

above it all.

queen bee.

march to her own drummer.

individualist.

social/fashion/party maven.

netflix kind of girl.

calm.

low-key.

put up a facade for the crowd.

judgmental.

keep to herself.

energized by the scene.

natural performer.

happiest person here.

brooding.

good friend qualities.

easy to approach.

careful.

tentative."

You’ll also note that a lot of these unnervingly ambiguous observations focus on a girl’s presumed inability to cut loose and have some fun. They are designed, in other words, to eradicate anti-slut defenses and persuade her to open up... to you, the fearless judger of her feminine worth.