If you've developed a pattern of people-pleasing, it can feel impossible to break free of it, especially in our core relationships. It often begins when someone in our childhood in authority communicates that their needs trump our needs. We become driven by the need to avoid conflict or deflect from the shame we feel about ourselves. But when we don't look for other ways of relating, we can stunt our growth and deprive other people of the chance to grow.

I'll share how God exposed the people-pleasing habits in my life and why learning practical ways to set boundaries transformed how I felt about myself and related to others. I'll unpack the roles of the "drama triangle" and how you can identify which roles you play in this dynamic as well as what you can do to get unstuck here.

In this episode you'll learn:

• Why it's so tricky to distinguish between a need and a desire
• Why it's unhealthy to believe it's our job to stop anyone from experiencing negative emotions
• How people pleasing can feel so rewarding at times
• Evidence for why tolerating abuse is not an expression of love
• Why we can feel stuck believing we have no choices

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Links Mentioned:

• Episode #11: Our Valid Need for Love and Respect
• National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
• Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend