Here's the text of today's conversation:

“Let’s just remember this simple equation: that of the things you learn you remember more that are sustaining than not. See, simple. Ok. Talk with peeps. They often dwell on things not worth keeping and remembering. Sustaining does not always mean idealized. Actually, reality is better remembered and then sifted for that which sustains.

“Angers, let them go. Great travail without learning, let it go. Walking three miles to school uphill both ways through two feet of snow, let it go. Real learning is apparent, not milked. That’s allowing other learning remembered to inform you. But to have a struggle point and say ‘I am going to stew over this until I understand it,’ does no good.

“Isolating such a time to analyze it is less helpful than trying to connect it into a larger field of meaning. Let’s just put it this way: Don’t obsess. In fact, when a period of travail is fully integrated into larger understandings and meanings, one stops remembering it in detail and only in context. And one then stops speaking of the details and can speak of the learning. Unconnected events are remembered as details. Connected events are remembered as understandings for what they reveal. Listen to people. Some will recount every little goddamn detail but without any synthesis. You both did that when I died, but with understanding you stopped focusing on the details and so could be open to larger meaning.”