In this Simple Healthy Life episode, Ryan and MJ unpack self-actualization and its paradox: the more you fixate on becoming your “best self,” the more you slide into comparison, box-checking, and self-rejection. They explore how to pursue growth without eroding acceptance, drawing on Maslow, growth mindset, real training examples from jiu-jitsu and the gym, and a powerful Kobe Bryant reflection on feeling first, then choosing action. You’ll get a practical reframe for identity over outcomes, plus present-moment tools like journaling, meditation, and meaning-making in daily work and relationships so progress feels authentic, not performative.