This conversation dives into Step 5 of The Shift 5—Trim the Sails—applied to relationships. We rethink “trust” through the lens of radical self-ownership: you’re responsible for your emotions, they’re responsible for theirs. From marriages and money to parenting and daily chores (yes, even the trash), we explore how to set clean boundaries, release control, and choose unconditional love without becoming enmeshed. Expect mind-bending reframes, practical examples, and gentle challenges that create real space—so connection, stewardship, and teamwork can actually work.

💡 What You’ll Hear

• Why “trust” often disguises control—and how to redefine it as a chosen emotion
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• Radical self-ownership in relationships: “I feel my feelings; you feel yours”
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• The difference between predicting someone and trying to control them
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• How “earn my trust” can become a manipulation loop (and how to step out)
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• Healthy boundaries vs. emotional enmeshment—what changes in practice
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• Interdependence as stewardship: “who holds the cards” and why it matters
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• The “trash example”: reallocating roles without resentment or score-keeping
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• Reframing forgiveness when you can’t “be sinned against” emotionally
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• Creating space so loved ones (and kids) can step into responsibility
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• The power of the choice point: acting from the emotion you want to feel, not from contraction
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How these principles apply to marriage, friendships, community—and even your relationship with your body

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