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“Lifestyle:
Survivors in this stage can have their lifestyle affected in some of the following ways:
Their sense of personal security or safety is damaged.
They feel hesitant to enter new relationships.
Questioning their sexual identity or sexual orientation (more typical of men raped by other men or women raped by other women.[16][17]).
Sexual relationships become disturbed.[18] Many survivors have reported that they were unable to re-establish normal sexual relations and often shied away from sexual contact for some time after the rape. Some report inhibited sexual response and flashbacks to the rape during intercourse. Conversely, some rape survivors become hyper-sexual or promiscuous following sexual attacks, sometimes as a way to reassert a measure of control over their sexual relations.” -Wikipedia. All of the above describes what happened to me 💯. “Rule 3: Ask Every Time
It’s important to discuss boundaries and expectations with your partner prior to engaging in any sexual behavior. If you’re unsure about another person’s boundaries, ask. Be clear and direct with your questions. It’s necessary and it should happen every time.
Some examples:
Would you like it if I kissed you?
If I touch you there/in that way, would you want that?
What do you like/don’t you like? Consent is a constant conversation.
Consenting to one activity, one time, does not mean someone gives consent for other activities or for the same activity on other occasions. For example, agreeing to kiss someone doesn’t give that person permission to remove your clothes. Having sex with someone in the past doesn’t give that person permission to have sex with you again in the future.
Nothing should be assumed. If something is unclear or you are unsure, it’s always best to ask.” RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network.) “Rule 2: Communicate Comfort Zones
Healthy relationships are built on a foundation of respect and communication. Your partner won’t necessarily know your boundaries if you don’t communicate them, and vice versa.
Conversations about boundaries should be rooted in respect and empathy. Remember, having boundaries creates stronger, more trustworthy relationships—it’s not a personal attack .
Here are a few tips for having a successful conversation:
Set the stage. Have the conversation in an environment that’s comfortable and inviting for all parties. Have refreshments or fidget toys available to help create conversation “breaks.”
Use “I” statements to talk about your feelings. To keep the conversation helpful and productive, make sure these statements concentrate on the actions, not the person.
End the conversation with solutions. What things can you keep in mind to help each other feel safe, respected, and cared for?
Here’s examples you can use to start your own conversation:
When [insert boundary violating activity here] happens, I feel [explain emotion]. By [insert boundary here], I will feel [explain emotion here].
I love [insert physical activity you like here] but I’m not ready for [insert physical activity you don’t want here]. When you try to do it anyways it makes me feel like you aren’t respecting my boundaries or me.” RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network.)
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By Antonio Myers“Lifestyle:
Survivors in this stage can have their lifestyle affected in some of the following ways:
Their sense of personal security or safety is damaged.
They feel hesitant to enter new relationships.
Questioning their sexual identity or sexual orientation (more typical of men raped by other men or women raped by other women.[16][17]).
Sexual relationships become disturbed.[18] Many survivors have reported that they were unable to re-establish normal sexual relations and often shied away from sexual contact for some time after the rape. Some report inhibited sexual response and flashbacks to the rape during intercourse. Conversely, some rape survivors become hyper-sexual or promiscuous following sexual attacks, sometimes as a way to reassert a measure of control over their sexual relations.” -Wikipedia. All of the above describes what happened to me 💯. “Rule 3: Ask Every Time
It’s important to discuss boundaries and expectations with your partner prior to engaging in any sexual behavior. If you’re unsure about another person’s boundaries, ask. Be clear and direct with your questions. It’s necessary and it should happen every time.
Some examples:
Would you like it if I kissed you?
If I touch you there/in that way, would you want that?
What do you like/don’t you like? Consent is a constant conversation.
Consenting to one activity, one time, does not mean someone gives consent for other activities or for the same activity on other occasions. For example, agreeing to kiss someone doesn’t give that person permission to remove your clothes. Having sex with someone in the past doesn’t give that person permission to have sex with you again in the future.
Nothing should be assumed. If something is unclear or you are unsure, it’s always best to ask.” RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network.) “Rule 2: Communicate Comfort Zones
Healthy relationships are built on a foundation of respect and communication. Your partner won’t necessarily know your boundaries if you don’t communicate them, and vice versa.
Conversations about boundaries should be rooted in respect and empathy. Remember, having boundaries creates stronger, more trustworthy relationships—it’s not a personal attack .
Here are a few tips for having a successful conversation:
Set the stage. Have the conversation in an environment that’s comfortable and inviting for all parties. Have refreshments or fidget toys available to help create conversation “breaks.”
Use “I” statements to talk about your feelings. To keep the conversation helpful and productive, make sure these statements concentrate on the actions, not the person.
End the conversation with solutions. What things can you keep in mind to help each other feel safe, respected, and cared for?
Here’s examples you can use to start your own conversation:
When [insert boundary violating activity here] happens, I feel [explain emotion]. By [insert boundary here], I will feel [explain emotion here].
I love [insert physical activity you like here] but I’m not ready for [insert physical activity you don’t want here]. When you try to do it anyways it makes me feel like you aren’t respecting my boundaries or me.” RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network.)
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