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Day 2 - Psalms 139:14

The Bible translations that I want to review today are the new King James Contemporary English version and the new living.

New King James says, I will praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Marvelous are your works, and that my soul knows very well.

The CV says, I praise you because of the wonderful way you created me. Everything you do is marvelous. Of this, I have no doubt.

The New Living translation says, Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex. Your workmanship is marvelous. How well I know it.

What's interesting about this scripture are the three words that I want to highlight.

Fearfully.

Reverence -

High esteem - to admire with pride, to have joy and wonder and delight to approve.

High regard - to consider or think of someone or something in a specific way.

Great respect - a deep feeling of admiration of someone elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.

God says you're fearfully and wonderfully made. Now this word wonderfully means

Wonderfully

Distinct - Recognizably different.

Separated - viewed as a unit by yourself, masterpiece, work of art.

Distinguished - An observable difference, respected, impressive.

Marvelous

Extraordinary - very unusual, exceptional, amazing, astounding.

Surpassing - incomparable, outstanding

Wondrous - inspiring a feeling of wonder or delight.

So you're exceptional, you're amazing, you're outstanding, you're inspiring, delight in wonder.

You're recognizably different. You're viewed as a masterpiece of work of art. There's an observable difference about you that's respected. People admire you, they have joy and wonder, and they take delight in you. And they have great respect for you, which is a deep appreciation.

So how can you not have confidence?

How is it that you not say to yourself that you're wonderful, that you're created this way on purpose, that the hard work and skill and equality to God used to create you makes you extraordinary?

That you were created with admiration and pride and joy and approval simply stated that you're enough. That you are fearfully and wonderfully made; that you're impressive. Your abilities and qualities, and achievements are built into your DNA.

How could you not have self-confidence when you understand what the word of God says about you? He says that you're fearfully and wonderfully made.

You were created with a wonderful purpose; you are extraordinary; The hard work and great skill, quality, and materials used to create you.

You are enough. You are designed with appreciation, joy, and approval.

You're fearfully and wonderfully made. Again, I say God made a marvelous work with you. And you have impressive abilities, qualities, and achievements built into your DNA.

Finally, you're fearfully and wonderfully made approved of distinguished and exceptional.

Let's end here with a prayer.

Father, in the name of Jesus, I thank you. Praise you for fearfully and wonderfully making me everything you do is marvelous of this. I have no doubt.

God, I choose to believe your word about who I am. I walk in your confidence that you built in me. Every day, I will remind myself of where I come from and who I am, and what I'm capable of. I'm more than enough. I'm more than a conqueror. I can do everything that I was created to do.

And as always, you give me exceedingly abundantly above all, I ask, or think, according to the power that's active in me. So, Lord,

Day One – Philippians 4:13

New King James' translation says. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

The Amplified translation says. I can do all things which he has called me to do through him who strengthens and empowers me. Fulfill his purpose. I'm self-sufficient in Christ's sufficiency. I'm ready for anything and equal to anything through Him who infuses me with inner strength and confident peace.

Now the NIV, which is the New International Version, says. I can do all of this through him who gives me strength.

I read different translations so that I can get a fuller understanding of what the scripture means. After I do that I sit there and I meditate and I ponder what I read. And then I come up with. I called Michelle's translation.

Michelle’s Translations:

So here are some translations from me.

I'm ready for anything and equal to anything.

I have the ability, the strength, and the power for all things I'm self-sufficient in Christ sufficiency. I can do this.

I have everything I need to successfully get it done.

Now when you're doing a devotional, it's really important. At least I think it's very important. It's been very beneficial for me.  To not only meditate on the Word, but actually go in and study that word to get in there and find out what those individual words mean. When you have a full understanding of each word that jumps out to you.  It makes the scripture come alive to you.

So in that Scripture can do means to be strong in your body for you to have strong health. It means to have power exerting and wielding power and having the strength to overcome. To be able to have the power and the skill, the opportunity to do something.

When he says all things, it means whatever. Now the interesting thing about the word, whatever is that it's called a pronoun determinator. What that means is that it's used to emphasize no restriction.

So whatever all things it means, thoroughly complete with every detail. Every includes all things. Everything means there's nothing that's left out of it.

And then we have Christ. Which we know is Christos. In Greek, it's Jesus Christ, our Messiah, the son of God, the anointed one. In his anointing. He himself strengthen. Means to empower and to give me authority and power and confidence to do something.

So I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me means I can do everything in my body. I have strong health to do it. I can exert and wield energy. I have the strength to overcome. I have the power and skill and ability to do something. Whatever it is because there is no restriction.  I can thoroughly complete it with every detail intact. All things I can do because Christ the anointed one, has empowered me. He's given me the authority, the power, and the confidence to do this.

So let's take a moment now and do a meditation.

MEDITATION

So after I have read the scripture and then I've gone through each translation. And then I've created my own translation. And then. I have studied the Scriptures so I got a fuller understanding of each individual word. It is now time for you to meditate.

And some of the new thoughts that I would encourage you to meditate on are as follows.

I can do whatever I need to do. I can do hard, complicated, disciplined work to get what I need and want.

I am furnished with the necessary powers of administration.

I am provided with everything needed to accomplish/execute and rule.

I have everything I need to accomplish/achieve and rule.

I already have everything I need to achieve excellence.

I can do this; I have everything I need to successfully get it done.

PRAYER

Father, in the Name of Jesus.

You know you hear a lot about self-confidence, and we talk a lot about it here because that's a buzzword that people think that's the catchall for, you know, feeling good about who you are.

But when I was studying self-confidence in the Bible, I kept coming back to love, and in the New Testament, there are two primary commandments; the 1st is about loving God with your mind, your body, and your soul, and in the other one. It is to love others as much as you love yourself, and a lot of times, we talk about loving other people, but we don't.

Get down to the nitty-gritty or what I think is the nitty-gritty of that commandment that God talks to us about. He says that we have to love others as much as we love ourselves.

And so, a lot of times, it's in the church community or even in the world. It's like, well, you know, if you love yourself that you or arrogant, or you're selfish, or you know you shouldn't be that way. That's not the proper way to be. You get a lot of shame from it, and there is balance. Don't get me wrong; we can get too far into just putting our needs above everything else and not considering anybody else and not coming to an understanding of that when you have.

Ship with other people. There are certain things that there's a given a take, but primarily if you're not taking care of yourself.

You are not taking great care of other people, regardless of if you're selfless or not.

And so I want to talk about that right now talking about, you know, treating people.

Typically we treat people that we supposedly don't care for and that aren't our family, friends, or loved ones better than we treat our loved ones. That's an interesting concept because excellence is supposed to come from the inside out and those that are closer in your circle.

Should get the majority of the love the most significant benefit of the love and from them getting the greater benefit of your love. They're able to utilize that love and.

Give out more love to their circle, so it's kind of like an explosion is a blast radius. You know those that are closer to where the bomb was detonated. There's most of where the damage is, and in this situation, they'll be most of where the love, compassion, understanding, and care should be. Many times that's not the case. We give so much outside of our family outside of ourselves outside of our inner circles to people that are around us.

Yes, when we come home, when we are finished with our day's work, we are so exhausted, and we don't have anything to give to those people or children or family or loved ones or friends. And most importantly to ourselves, because we can't continue to give out to other people if we are empty. If our needs are not met. If we don't know who we are or haven't done the things that we need to do for ourselves, giving out to other people is basically.

Vein, as far as I'm concerned, it's fake. It's like this thing that I found out about, like McDonald's, that the cup sizes are all exactly the same. It's not real; it's an illusion. You know you're not really giving the best part of yourself. You're not utilizing the best part of yourself because you are empty.

And so.

The first person that you're supposed to love outside of God is you.

You know we're taught. As I said, we're taught that loving other people you know is really important, and it is. I'm not saying that it's not.

But we're really not taught about self-love because if we have an awareness and an understanding about loving ourselves.

Then they'll be disciplined. They'll be happy. They'll be goal attainment. They'll be rest and relaxation.

You know there'll be so many things because we know that we have to take care of ourselves, start to enjoy,

Have you ever wanted something and did everything you knew to get, achieve, or receive it. You decided to get it, researched precisely what you wanted, and knew everything there was to know about what you wanted. You were now an expert on your desire. You cut pictures out of magazines, searched for photos on the internet, bookmarked all the best sites, and made a vision board. You looked at that vision board every day and got excited when you saw the pictures of your desire. You thought about it constantly, whenever you got a spare moment. While you stopped at a red light waiting for it to turn green, you saw yourself with your desire. You talked about your desire to other people so much that they got tired of listening to you.

As the days and weeks started to pass, your enthusiasm started to wane, and you thought about your desire less and less. You walked past your vision board as if it was part of the painted wall, no longer seeing your desire the way you had seen it initially.

It now seems like a daydream, something you did to pass the time one day when you were bored.

No, it wasn’t a daydream, it was indeed something that you wanted, but you didn’t realize that you had to receive the desire before it manifested in physical form. There are four primary elements to belief, and receiving it is an important one. When you believe something, you have to:

Accept it – believe its existence, say yes to it, welcome it into your life

Consent to it – give it permission to happen, it doesn’t just arrive – you have to create it

Form an impression in your mind of what you are receiving – you have to see to receive it

Serve as a receptacle for your desire. You plant the belief for your desire in your soul

Provide space for it, make room for your desire – literally and figuratively

Detect it or pick it up like a broadcast signal. Whatever you focus on, you attract

Too many times, we give up on what we said we wanted.

We put in hours of prep work, and as soon as we don’t immediately see the manifestation of what we want, we get discouraged and quit. That discouragement or lack of enthusiasm can take on many forms like:

Anger – which is a secondary emotion, and masking the real feeling you don’t want to deal with

Disappointment - which is sadness caused by the unfulfillment

Then we stop and usually quit.

Now filled with regret and a limiting belief that may sound something like:

“What’s the point in trying? I’m not:

Smart enough

Pretty enough

Old Enough

Young Enough

Rich enough

Popular enough

Tall enough

Small enough

Any Enough will do

Then we rationalize

It’s not for me

God didn’t want that for me

When one door shuts, another door opens

“People” are always trying to keep me down

The truth is none of those things was the issue.

They were just roadblocks, obstacles, situations that stood in between you and what you said you wanted.

When you believe something, you know that it doesn’t just walk in the door until you have manifested it. If you’ve just started believing, then it’s like the muscles in your body. You have to exercise them so that they get stronger and can handle the weight. You also need to stretch them to keep them flexible and healthy to maintain a range of motion in your joints.

The receiving part of your belief works the same way. Your belief is flexible, healthy, and has a solid range of motion to handle the weight of receiving your desire.

Pick up from where you stopped believing; you don’t have to start over. Go back to your vision board,

I was talking to a friend of mine the other day, and she's pretty successful in her industry, and she was telling me about a project that she's working on.

While describing the project, there was passion in her voice - she was angry. At the same time, she was processing her feelings from the client's experiences. And there was this compassionate empathy, this visceral anger that was coming up from inside of her. And you know she was talking about how people don't have access to certain information and the choices they make as a result.

And as I was listening to her.

I was thinking about my own life and the lives of other people.

And just my observations of things that I had seen, and I would come back in and listen to words as she was saying, and it was all boiling down to choices.

And a lot of people say if you know better, you do better. Well, that's not necessarily true because we can have a tremendous amount of information, but we don't do anything with it. We can. We can spout it out; we can recite it. We can verbalize it back to other people. We can give them advice from that information that we've provided, and it can help them because they go and put it into action. But if we're not utilizing that information, it's just information.

And what I was realizing was that we don't realize that we have choices many times, and that can be in any area of your life that could be purchasing a home—having a better relationship.

Living in a different environment, living in a foreign country, starting a business. Going to school, not going to school. Choosing who you want to love.

Depending upon the environment that you're in and how your mind processes information, and their previous experiences that you've been a part of, you don't sometimes realize that you have a choice. You know you see women that were battered and abused, and people say, well, you know why stay in that relationship. Sometimes people don't realize they have a choice.

And then when you realize you have a choice, or you get that epiphany or that IHOP moment.

Then something else comes in and is like, well, what do I choose? And there's so much that's available in this world today. Suppose you're not accustomed to making choices for yourself. If that's not something that you've done before, you've always done with other people wanted you to do. You've never taken the time to sit out and think about what it is that you want. Think about who you are. Think about where you want your life to go. Then you have no idea, no concept that you can make a choice. And what are your available options?

A lot of times, we choose from the lesser of two evils.

But guess what, you don't have to choose from a list of two evils if you have choice A and choice B. Guess what? You can create a choice C, Or you can select neither of them.

But many times, we don't realize that we have those options available to us and then the other thing you could live in a community. Let's use housing as an example. You can live in a society where there are homes, and other people live in homes, and it never crossed your mind that a home is available to you.

And then if when you purchase a home, what community do you want to live in? Do I have to live around the people that I grew up around? Can I move to another state? Is it OK for me to live in a specific community? Do I have to live in this country, you know? And so, there are so many other things that go along with making choices. But the primary thing that she and I were talking about was.

Many people don't realize that they have the ability or the option to choose.

I know for myself I didn't have.

The understanding that I had a choice. I grew up in a family where I didn't choose what I ate.

Have you ever considered loving yourself unconditionally? No strings attached. Getting up each day, happy about who you are, and looking forward to what the day would unfold? Have you taken the time to think about who you want to be, where you want to go, and write down your ideal-self characteristics, values, and morals and looking into the future of the happiness, peace, prosperity, and accomplishment that you have and achieve?

The best way to do that is to start with spending time with God. Get to know Him and who He is. When you see God, you will see who you were created to be—made in His image and likeness.

Take time each day to connect with God, letting Him know He is your priority. Spend time in His presence, developing a solid relationship with Him.

Learning and depending on His:

Character

Power,

Grace,

Wisdom,

Love,

Compassion

Simply spending time in His presence, not asking for anything other than spending time with Him.

I won’t keep you long today because I’d like for you to take a few moments and pull aside and focus on God.

Make Him your priority.

Get rid of all distractions. Mute your phone and lay it face down. Turn off the television. Find a quiet place and pull aside.

Tell God how much you love Him and how you can’t live without Him.

Tell Him what He means to you.

Remind Him how He Makes you feel.

Make it clear to God that you can’t live without Him. Bask in the love and intense emotions and feelings that spring up inside you that you can’t explain, and their intensity catches you off guard.

I Challenge you to Love on God.

His nature is so kind and wonderful that before you can finish telling Him how you feel and what you think, He will overwhelm you with the love and feelings that He has for you.

I’ve tried to outlove God several times. And have been reduced to a pile of joyous tears and unspeakable happiness.

God is Amazing.

I’m tearing up now, just thinking about His love.

CONCLUSION

I challenge you to start with one minute – 60 seconds.

Start telling God how much you love Him and what He means to you and watch Him overtake you with His love.

Psalm 22:3 says, “God inhabits the praises of His people.”

Be prepared to be overwhelmed!

I have all my life tried to figure out how to be better at who I'm supposed to be, how to achieve what I'm supposed to achieve. I didn't have anybody to teach me, and those people that were teaching me I didn't realize that they were teaching me.

Over the years have studied and hit my head against the cement floor and I've come up with what I call a spiritual discipline. There are eight things that I do to get what I want in life when I don't do any of one of these things, it throws me off, but I finally found the eight things that done together as a system as a process helps me to create everything that I want.

Everything that I need and gets me into the place where I'm supposed to be in terms of living and creating the life that I want to have. I've done it many times and I didn't realize I was doing it at the time.

I would do some of it. Then I would do other parts of it and I couldn't figure out why things weren't working the way they were supposed to work, and it's a lot of back and forth that I have done trying to figure it out.

And then it dawned on me I need to create a system.

And these are the things that I was doing that helped me get to where I was all those times that I reached all my goals. I was doing these eight things.

Let me tell you briefly about it all starts with me would study as a Christian. Always start with the word of God. Everything that you can think of that pertains to your life in the word of God, even if it's not mentioned Eric directly. If you're reading the word or if you're listening to it, you're going to find the answer to every issue that you have in your life.

So I study the Bible and read the Bible. I scour the Bible or research the Bible and I find what it is I'm looking for, then to amplify the study that I've done. I do research outside of the Bible, research books, situations, circumstances as an example when I wanted to find out about lust, I went through the Bible and I found all of the words the Greek and Hebrew that the Bible mentions.

As lust and then from there I read through and I found two or three scriptures that we call revelation that spoke directly to me, and from those three scriptures, I delve deeper into it. I would get the revelation from the Rhema, meaning I would get a word and understanding that hit close to my heart that it was like, Oh yeah, that's the one I've been looking for. That's exactly what's happening to me. That's why this is happening. That's how to get to that destination.

So I study and then after I study, I meditate.

I am literally meditating.

And no.

As a Christian, you know a lot of US Christians we stray away from meditation, but the word talks about meditation early in the beginning of the book, over in Joshua 17 and eight this book, it allows, should not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, and you shall make your way prosperous, and you shall have good success.

Meditation is something that we're supposed to do now. I personally believe that there's some value in meditation where you sit and you breathe deeply. You know five times and clear your mind.

Just calm down what's happening, your soul calms down in the body released anxiety, the anxiousness, the stress there's a lot of benefit in doing that. Breathwork is very important because a lot of times we don't breathe correctly and we're stopping our breath and that stops the energy and the oxygen to your brain and so you don't think correctly. So when you're anxious, Sir when you're afraid you know you are holding your breath and you're not thinking correctly.

So doing that breathwork that setting yourself up to meditate is very important because what it does it cultivates the field for the meditation of thinking and pondering over what it ...

Everybody has a purpose, and I believe that God created each person for something specific. When you realize your gifts and purpose, and you walk in that, you live in that, and you do that. It just kind of comes naturally.

God wants to say something. He wants me to relay knowledge to you differently today.

So what you're going to hear is what I believe. God wanted you to say through me. Be blessed. I hope you receive it.

You know, I want to talk about being blessed.

I have come through so many things in my life.

I've seen a lot of abuse. I've seen a lot of abundance, and no matter what, even when I didn't even know it, God was always with me.

He's:

Loved and protected me

Provided for me

Given me, everything that I could ever think of or ask for and a lot of stuff that I didn't even know was available to me.

Understood me for who I am, accepting me for who I am and what I am.

I love spending time with God. He's my best friend. I can go to him and talk to him about anything. I'm so blessed. It's not about the pursuit of things, the attainment of material possessions. It's not about being in a relationship with other people that are blessed. It comes from inside. It's how you feel is how you think. It's how you move in the world.

I'm blessed; there's nothing that I can't have. There's nothing that I can't do. There's nowhere I can't go, there's nobody that I can't be, I can be whoever I want to be, I can do whatever I want to do.

I can live where I want to live. I can have whatever I want to have.

I am blessed.

It's amazing how much:

God loves me.

He cares.

He's provided for me.

He's protected me.

He has in store for me.

He says I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, thoughts of good and not evil, of an expected end. He knew me before the foundation of the Earth, creating me knitting me together in my mother's womb. He formed me. He knows every molecule.

He knows me. He created me. I have a purpose, and when I flow in that purpose when I live in that purpose when I do what He's called me to do, I am perfectly happy. I am content.

PRAYER for God's Blessing.

He's a glorious God, a merciful God - Hallelujah, an omniscient God. He knows everything. He's omnipotent - Hallelujah, He has all power. Hallelujah, Lord, I praise you for your Grace and your mercy and your kindness. I exalt you and reverence You for this opportunity to let people know that I am blessed and let them know that they're also blessed. That You love them, that You protect them, that You provide for them. Lord, I give you praise and glory and honor.

Hallelujah, Lord, I thank you for the confidence that you placed in the people that hear my voice.

Lord, I Thank and Praise You for their:

Lives.

Prosperity.

 Health.

Relationships.

Careers and purposes. Hallelujah Lord,

Gifts.

Lord, I thank you and praise you in the name of Jesus. They have a sound mind, and Your peace surrounds them. Lord, I praise and glorify your holy name for you.

Lord, you're worthy.

You are magnificent.

You, Lord, are glorious Hallelujah.

I give you the praise, the glory, and honor. God, you're worthy. God, you're an amazing God. You're a miraculous God, and I thank you for your people.

In Jesus' name, Amen.

Get the Self Confidence Jumpstart Meditation

Today I’ll share with you a life-changing technique that cost me thousands of dollars to learn and decades to understand.

Let me tell you about a skill set that you can activate every day that inundates your mind with confident power, facilitating the person you want to become.

Okay, calm your mind, get relaxed and peaceful and think about the person you want to be, with the qualities you want to embody.

Imagine what your:

Life would be like?

Where do you live?

Do you live in a house, an apartment, a townhouse, a tiny home?

How big is it? How many bedrooms? Do you have a sauna?

Do you live in the city? The country? The suburbs? By the ocean? In the mountains? In a different country?

What’s happening with your health?

Are you disease-free?

Are you a vegan, a fruitarian?

Do you exercise, how often?

What kind of exercise? Bodybuilding, Pilates, running?

Do you have hobbies?

Sewing, motorcycles, para-sailing?

Your standard of living?

$50K, $150K, $500K, a million a year?

Is your house paid for?

What kind of car do you drive? Do you have a driver?

Who are the people in your life?

Do you have a family? Are you married, have children – how many, nieces and nephews?

Career, Ministry, Retired, Volunteer work.

Do you travel? Where do you go, how often, with who, how do you get there?

Now, don’t edit yourself or be “realistic” when answering these questions. Go crazy, think of the most far-out their things you can, as if it was a fantasy that you could participate in – Because if you can think it, you can have it. Don’t forget the excitement you would feel in the dream.

Fun Fact: Completing this exercise is programing your subconscious with the new you.

One of the most powerful techniques to modify your self-image is visualization.

How you see yourself is who you become.

If you don’t put in the effort and time to create yourself, whatever influences you will create an image for you. If you watch a lot of TV and you don’t spend any time seeing yourself or what you want to do, you may not like the image that materializes.

Images are commanding, they:

Intensify your desires and strengthen your beliefs

Increase your willpower and build your persistence

There are four components of a visualization:

Frequency

Clarity

Intensity

Duration

Let’s briefly discuss each component.

1st Component

Frequency is how often you visualize an event, goal, or behavior. Frequency has a powerful impact on how you think, feel, and behave. People who accomplish extraordinary things continually visualize their desired results, thinking about what they want to achieve all the time and replaying the ideal image repeatedly, like re-watching a movie continuously on the screen in their minds. Interestingly, the number of times you replay the film in your mind indicates how much you want the event, goal, or behavior and, at the same time, intensifies your desire to have it and your belief that it’s available to you.

2nd Component

Clarity is the second component of visualization. Clarity is how precise you see in your imagination - the detail and vividness. There is a direct relationship between how clearly you see a desired goal or result and how quickly it appears for you.

Think about when you thought about something you wanted, and your initial thoughts were vague and fuzzy. But the more you thought about it, the clearer and more detailed the image became. Eventually,

Your ideal self, what you believe is the best version of yourself in every area of your life. Your ideal version influences how you think about yourself and your behavior; this is your perfect self. The qualities and values that you value highly and admire in other people. It’s the grand total of your dominant desires and goals. The you that you want to be. The perfect you.

Happy, peaceful, and high achieving people have a very clear ideal self; they’re continually setting high standards, and putting in great effort to achieve and live up to them. When you put the work in, the clearer you are about who you want to become, the more likely you will develop into that person. You’ll rise to the dominant aspiration of yourself.

You become who you want to be.

The flip side of that is unhappy, unfocused, and confused people have an unclear, blurry, distorted ideal self, and in most cases, no ideal self at all. They’ve given little to no thought about the qualities and values of the person they want to be and develop into, and definitely no effort to get there. As a result, their growth and development atrophy over time. Life becomes a grind, and they lose their desire for self-development.

When you define and clarify your values and integrate them into your daily life and decisions, your attitude improves. Because your outer world mirrors your inner world, your life circumstances change to reflect your improved attitude.

SELF-IMAGE

Moving on to your image – the second part of your self-concept. How you see and think about yourself today.

Your self-image or “inner vision” determines how you behave in situations. It’s a reflection of your current dominant qualities and values, meaning you act like the inner vision you hold of yourself consistently.

Kool fact, you can change your behavior by upgrading your inner vision.

This process of self-image modification is one of the fastest and most dependable ways to improve your behavior. When you begin to think and see yourself as more competent and confident, your behavior becomes focused and effective.

Deliberately changing your self-image – the way you live, speak, and behave, creates a different life. Positive change upgrades your life. Negative change diminishes your life. God has set before you life and death, blessing and cursing, and has given you the best answer and the system to live an abundant life. When you change your inner vision, you change your life and who you are.

SELF-ESTEEM

The third part of your self-concept is your esteem. Your self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. The emotional aspect and a foundational quality of achievement and behavior. A key to your effectiveness and happiness. Like a battery, it’s the power source to your behavior – the source of energy, enthusiasm, vitality, and optimism that powers your behavior, that makes you into a high-achieving confident person.

Two factors determine your level of self-esteem:

How valuable and worthwhile you feel about yourself

Self-efficacy

How much you like and accept yourself as a good person. The personal assessment, how you rate yourself, no matter what’s going on in your life. The rating isn’t dependent on external factors. Someone with genuine self-esteem can have many challenges and setbacks in their current circumstances and still have a high, optimistic estimate of themselves as a person.

Self-Efficacy

Self-efficacy – how competent you feel you are in whatever you’re doing is the second factor determining your self-esteem level. Self-efficacy is about how you believe you perform. It’s the element that real self-confidence is built on.

Your worth and efficacy reinforce each other. When you feel good about yourself, you behave well, and when you behave well, you feel good about yourself.