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The truth about her ‘sex tape’ ft Alexandra Ryan

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TW: Episode mentions suicide, suicidal ideation, image based sexual abuse, sexual abuse, coercive control.

 

In this powerful episode of Too Into You, host Mary Hayes sits down with Alexandra Ryan, award winning journalist, law graduate, founder and CEO of Goss.ie and survivor of image based sexual abuse.

 

When Ali was 25, she was filmed, without her knowledge or consent, having sex with a man she knew and trusted. She bravely shared her story on Goss.ie and has gone on to advocate for survivors of image based sexual abuse. Ali now acts as an Ambassador for the Department for the Justice and helped them launch a campaign to combat the sharing of intimate images without consent.

 

In this episode, we talk about:

  • The real impact on victims — from shame and isolation to rebuilding trust.
  • What does ‘revenge porn’ really mean?
  • Coco’s Law and changes in Irish law that criminalise intimate image abuse.
  • The pressures young women face to send nudes and sexually explicit imagery.
  • Why it’s never your fault and what support is out there.

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    If someone shares or even threatens to share explicit images or videos of you without your permission, this is image based sexual abuse and it is a crime.

    If this has happened to you, you can:

    • Learn more at: https://www.toointoyou.ie/get-help/sharing-of-intimate-images/
    • Report it at: https://hotline.ie/

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      Read Ali’s full story here: https://goss.ie/gallery/featured-2-the-truth-about-my-sex-tape-by-alexandra-ryan-232458-232458

       

      If you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship you can:

      • Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900.
      • Chat for support at toointoyou.ie
      • Take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not.

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        Follow @toointoyou on TikTok and Instagram, and don’t forget to leave us a review and comment.

         

        Chapters:

        00:00 - Intro

        01:40 – Who is Ali Ryan?

        09:23 – Ali’s story and the impact of image based sexual abuse

        22:46 – The truth about ‘revenge porn’

        26:12 – Taking back control and going public

        29:32 – Pressure, porn and consent 

        37:00 – Shifting the public conversation

        47.29 – A message of hope for anyone affected

        49:49 – Episode wrap up with Madeline Campbell

         


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