Who should initiate in a relationship? And why does it feel so personal when they don’t?

In this episode of The Backdoor Podcast, we’re having the honest conversation most couples avoid — initiating intimacy, affection, dates, effort… and why it can quietly create resentment. From feeling rejected to feeling undesired, we’re breaking down the emotional side of initiation that no one really talks about.

Is it about confidence? Pride? Gender roles? Or just poor communication?

We talk about:

Why rejection hits deeper than we admit

How mismatched drives create tension

The pressure men and women both feel

Why “waiting for them to start it” can damage connection

How to initiate without fear or ego

If you’ve ever felt unwanted… or felt like you’re always the one trying — this episode is for you.

Real relationship talk. No filters. Just truth.

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