Two people can talk for ten minutes, agree with their heads, and still miss each other completely. That exact moment, when words are being exchanged but meaning is not, is where an uncommon communicator steps in and takes ownership of the conversation instead of letting it drift into confusion or conflict.

I’m James Gable, and I’m kicking off a brand new season by breaking down the core framework I use to navigate tough conversations and reach mutual understanding. We start with self-awareness and the four common communication styles: passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, and assertive. Then we go deeper into a piece most people miss: how the other person listens. Are they analytical and fact-driven, relational and connection-first, critical and evaluative, or task-focused and efficiency-minded? When you can spot the listening style in real time, you can choose a better approach and stop talking past each other.

We also get practical with communication tools you can use today, including authentic curiosity, labeling (“It seems like…”) to confirm what you’re hearing, and mirroring to prompt people to expand and clarify their real meaning. If you want better communication skills at work, stronger relationships at home, and simple conflict resolution techniques that actually work, this season opener gives you a clear starting point. Subscribe, share the show with someone you communicate with daily, and leave a review so more people can find the tools to make conversations work.

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Ever wonder how ancient philosophy can transform modern-day communication and performance in the construction industry? Well, prepare to be enlightened as we journey into the realm of stoicism and its impacts on communication, with insights from the seasoned construction pro, Felipe Manriquez. We kick off the episode by discussing the wisdom of renowned Stoics like Marcus Aurelius and Epictetus, and their profound influence on cognitive behavior theory. Felipe shares how these teachings have helped him take control of his reactions, adapt to situations and maintain a resilient mindset in the demanding field of construction.

Our conversation doesn’t stop there, we explore how emotional control, energy, growth, and change intertwine in the challenging construction industry terrain. We dig deep into the importance of health, well-being, and cultivating a growth mindset, all crucial elements for succeeding in this sector. Felipe and I also shed light on the barriers that can inhibit progress and the power of stoicism in overcoming them. We highlight the Stoic Rule number four, a life-changing principle that makes you the sole custodian of your happiness.

As we wrap up our engaging chat, our focus shifts to the resistance to change commonly witnessed in the construction industry and valuing people as individuals rather than mere cogs in the wheel. We reiterate the teachings of stoicism that encourage us to embrace the present and live each day to the fullest. We discuss the concept of "UC moment" or the uncommon communicator moment and how it intersects with stoicism. Regardless of your career field, this episode offers valuable insights to improve your communication skills and understanding of stoicisms' role in modern thought and practice.
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Meet Adam Hoots, founder of Construction ACHE Solutions and a change-maker in the realm of construction. His dedication to shifting the perception of skilled trades and craft workers is awe-inspiring, and our discussion today promises to shed light on this, and the fascinating world of lean construction principles. A man of many languages, Adam emphasizes the power of words in building trust with colleagues, a trait that's been instrumental in his success. In fact, it was Adam's remarkable journey that inspired the creation of Uncommon Communicators podcast.

Join us as we dissect the complexities of lean construction with Adam. He guides us through his unique approach to making construction projects more efficient, through the application of lean principles. The conversation broadens to include the importance of visual communication and respect for people, both within and outside the industry. For those eager to understand lean construction better, Adam provides a sneak peek into his book, a comprehensive thesaurus of lean terms and visuals, simplifying the concept for all.

We conclude with an exploration of the impact and influence of visual communication in lean processes. Adam shares his experience of launching a superintendent-only network, influencing the NCCER's leadership program, and his preparation for a TEDx talk. We celebrate the power of communication, specifically in construction and how it shapes our world. Walk away with a new found respect for the trades, the importance of thorough preparation, and the invaluable role of communication. Join us on this enlightening journey and gain valuable insights from an industry expert.
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Experience the transformative power of negotiation with our esteemed guest Megan Shapiro, a construction attorney turned risk management maestro. As we unravel the complex tapestry of negotiation for construction leaders, Megan imparts her wisdom on the holistic approach to risk management. It's not just about the fine print or safety protocols; it's an intricate dance with communication styles, tailored approaches, and the strategic use of questions to unlock win-win scenarios. Our dialogue is a masterclass in identifying personal negotiation styles, leveraging them for strategic advantage, and fostering a culture of active listening and consistent practice.

Step into the world of the 'Uncommon Communicator' with us, where Megan Shapiro guides us through the nuances of legal disputes and mediation. Discover how to resonate with different communicative styles and adapt to the combination lock of negotiation dynamics. We delve into the paradoxical goal of strategic consulting — empowering clients to the point where our presence becomes unnecessary. From the role-playing exercises that hone our communication skills to the art of asking the right questions, we provide a roadmap for construction professionals to navigate the emotional and factual landscapes of negotiation.


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When was the last time you gave someone your full trust? This isn't just about believing they'll show up on time, but trusting them with the parts of you that you might keep under lock and key. Join us as we sit down with Jennifer Lacey, the 2023 Dallas Business Journal's Woman of the Year in Business, who not only shares her journey through vulnerability and trust but also provides us with an in-depth look at the hard-won lessons in her book, "Lean in Love."

Throughout our conversation, Jennifer peels back the layers on what it means to truly connect with others, whether it's with our children, colleagues, or the person we see in the mirror. From sharing personal tales of grief to discussing the nuance of feedback within our most intimate circles, this episode is a treasure trove of honesty. Trust us, you'll come away from this episode understanding that sometimes the strongest thing you can do is let your guard down and listen, really listen, to what others have to say.

Ending on a practical note, we delve into the concrete ways in which we can build and sustain trust, especially in the workplace. Jennifer, with her rich expertise in continuous improvement, gives us a backstage pass to the leadership strategies that lead to genuine rapport and collaboration. By the time you reach the end of this episode, you'll have gained not just a newfound appreciation for the role of trust in personal and professional growth but also actionable steps to invite more authenticity into your interactions. Don't let this chance slip by to learn from one of the most candid voices on communication and leadership today.

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Have you ever witnessed a transformation that reshaped a life's trajectory? That's precisely what Jesse Hernandez has experienced, evolving from a high-achieving construction maven to a magnanimous contributor through stories and wisdom shared in his compelling book, "Becoming the Promise that you Were Intended to Be." Our conversation peels back the layers of crafting an authentic personal brand, the delicate dance of self-promotion, and the profound shifts that come from pouring into others. Jesse's insights into mentorship and community engagement are a testament to the strength found in collective wisdom.

Baring one's soul isn't for the faint of heart, and this episode doesn't shy away from the raw edges of vulnerability. We navigate the therapeutic landscapes of storytelling, especially in the context of addiction recovery and the search for self-worth. Jesse and I discuss the beauty in embracing our imperfections and the transformative power of seeing ourselves through the compassionate lens of others. It's a deep dive into the resilience that blooms from storytelling, the clarity that whispers in our intuitive moments, and the opportunities disguised in life's adversities.

Closing out this insightful exchange, we celebrate the language of inclusivity and the camaraderie that fuels professional environments. Reflecting on the parallels between the solidarity of 12-step meetings and team dynamics, we examine how embracing our humanity can enhance both personal growth and professional interactions. This heart-to-heart is a masterclass in leveraging personal narratives to inspire and connect, serving as a reminder that our individual journeys have the power to echo in the lives of others, urging them to share their own. Join us for this inspiring session that will leave you contemplating the stories you have to tell and the promise you were meant to be.

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Ever wonder how a melody can unlock a memory or a rhythm can help someone relearn how to walk? This is the magic that music therapist Joanna Ostrander brings to the table, and she unraveled the mysteries of neurologic music therapy with us, offering an intriguing look at music's impact on the brain. As our conversation weaved through Joanna's transition from performance to therapeutic practice, it became clear that music is not just an art form; it's a bridge to personal growth and a way to help individuals realize their intrinsic value.

It's one thing to talk, but another to truly communicate, and that's where our discussion turned enlightening. We tackled what it means to be an effective communicator, scrutinizing everything from the responsibility of clarity to the art of adaptation when the message isn't getting through. From the curious ways our brains forge connections to the potency of techniques like mirroring and labeling, we've peeled back the layers of interaction to reveal vulnerability as more than just a condition—it's a deliberate tool in the dance of dialogue.

The conversation didn't just stop at communication; we also celebrated those moments where music transcends genre, where an electric violinist or a pop star can break molds and delight hard rock fans. The episode was a symphony of ideas, from the therapeutic power of music in speech recovery to the way personal quirks, like a preference for Captain Picard over Captain Kirk, inform our perspectives on leadership and vulnerability. Get ready to be inspired, informed, and maybe even a little entertained as we harmonize the realms of music therapy and communication.

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Unlock the secrets to gracefully declining requests and safeguarding your boundaries with the guidance of Sarah Ginald, our boundary expert. Prepare to navigate the tricky waters of saying "no" without ruffling feathers or compromising relationships. Our latest episode serves as a playbook for those moments when you need to stand your ground, offering nine practical strategies that marry assertiveness with empathy. Whether it's disentangling the refusal from the individual asking or learning the subtle art of a timely "not now," we've got you covered with insights straight from the Harvard Business Review and beyond.

The dance of denial need not be a solo performance. Embrace the nuanced choreography of preserving both your peace and your connections as we dissect each step in the process. Sarah's expertise illuminates the path to a firm yet kind refusal, highlighting the importance of clarity in your "no" and the freedom that comes with the choices you make. By the close of our conversation, you'll walk away not just with the tools to decline with finesse, but also the courage to welcome the growth and opportunities that your well-placed "no's" will bring.

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Ever felt the weight of a simple 'no'? We've all been there, wrestling with the anxiety of turning down a request, and the ripple effects it might have. That's why we invited Sarah Ginella, the insightful VP of Full Sail Partners, to unravel the emotional layers that often make it so hard to refuse. Together, we tackle the concept of 'counterfeit yeses' and how to realign our decisions with our true feelings, championing the power of an authentic 'no.' It's a journey through the highs and lows of personal and professional boundaries that promises to leave you with a newfound respect for that tiny syllable.

At the heart of this episode lies the nuanced dance of communication, where a 'no' can be as complex as a kaleidoscope of colors. Sarah and I delve into how context can alter its meaning from a respectful denial to a harmful dismissal, and how recognizing this can empower those feeling undervalued to find their voice. We're not just talking about saying 'no'; we're fostering a workplace culture that applauds it. By doing so, we lay the foundation for authentic dialogue and create a professional environment that respects individual boundaries as much as it does productivity.

Rounding off our insightful chat, we share practical tips and anecdotes on managing workloads and setting professional boundaries. Hear how the go/no-go decision-making framework might just be the tool you need to communicate limits assertively and navigate the delicate balance of work commitments. Understand that it's not just the scale of a project that determines the workload, but the people and emotions behind it, and learn the art of gracefully declining, opening the door to a more balanced life. So tune in, and let's empower you to stand firm in your 'why' and wield the word 'no' with confidence and clarity.
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Have you ever wondered why some conversations leave you feeling invigorated while others feel like a dead end? Tune in as Brandon and I dissect the art of asking questions that aren't just fillers but gateways to deeper connection and understanding. Our latest episode of Uncommon Communicator podcast peels back the layers of communication, emphasizing how a blend of curiosity and the right questions can transform dialogues from mundane to meaningful.

In a candid exchange, we revisit the nuances of curiosity, examining how a sprinkle of information can entice interest, while too much can douse it. Drawing inspiration from the thrill of a TikTok scroll, we discuss strategies to strike that delicate balance, ensuring we keep our conversations as engaging and stimulating. We hone in on the art of listening intently, stressing the significance of comprehending responses to craft thoughtful follow-up questions. It's not enough to simply ask; caring about the answers is the cornerstone of rich communication.

Wrapping up with a deep dive into the craft of open-ended questions, we share tales from our own experiences where conversation dominance led to missed opportunities. By learning to embrace the unpredictability of responses and adapting our approach accordingly, we open ourselves to a world of meaningful interactions. We leave you with three key takeaways: nurture your curiosity, sharpen your listening skills, and become adept at asking open-ended questions. These insights will arm you with the tools to invigorate your everyday conversations and forge connections that resonate.

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