Have you ever wondered why people are so fascinated with 11/11? Why that little pattern of numbers seems to stop time for even just a second. It's like you're being nudged to notice something. For me, 11/11 has always meant something more personal. When my mom was alive, we would often text or call each other right at that time. was a silly thing between us and it became our ritual.

A quiet little reminder between the two of us that we were thinking of one another. And when she was passing, I told her that every time I saw 11/11, I'd keep her memory alive somehow.

So now whenever it appears, to me, it's not just a number on my phone or clock or watch. I think about her and the beautiful and incredible memories I have with her and times that she spent with my daughters and cooking in the kitchen and teaching them things. So to me, it's a whisper now. A pulse of connection that reminds me that love doesn't disappear.

It just changes form. Now, I've always been a huge believer of all things spiritual. God, Christianity, all of that. Not so much organized religion, but more of the spiritual spirituality aspect. But I also have a science brain and I love understanding the why behind the magic, the bridge between energy and evidence, intuition and neuroscience.

I'm your host, Yvonne Wink, and this is the Unfolding Podcast. Today, I'm really excited about this. We're going to explore what 11/11 really represents, not from superstition, but from the intersection of intention, alignment, and awareness. Stay with me, folks. I don't want to lose you. because, well, okay.

Some people see 11/11 as a wish. I happen to see it as a window, a doorway into presence and possibility. If you're listening to this on November 11th or any day, really, let's call this your beginning. Think of it like this. It's not about waiting for the perfect date or the perfect moment to reinvent yourself. It's about realizing that at any moment you can begin practicing who you want to become. And I'm not talking about fake it till you make it kind of energy. Nope. I'm talking about something deeper, aligning with the version of yourself that's already within you and just waiting to be lived out loud. 

Practicing who you really want to be with intention, awareness, and with compassion. Because that's the real secret. We don't become who we want by wishing, by just sitting around and thinking about it, or doom scrolling and living vicariously through random people on social media that we don't even know.

We become that person through small, consistent choices, through repetition, through practice.

If you want more love, practice being love with yourself, with others, practice self-acceptance, forgiveness, and compassion for the parts of you that are still learning.

If you want more peace, practice creating peace. Not just hoping for it. Not just having your fingers crossed, but creating it in your schedule, in your conversations, in your home. Make it so steady that even when life gets loud, you still feel anchored inside yourself. Take a breath. Slow down. Say no to what drains you.

And if you want more confidence, practice showing up. Do something once in a while that stretches you, maybe even scares you. Like starting a podcast.

Because courage isn't the absence of fear. It's the willingness to lean into it and move with it. The version of you you're becoming doesn't just arrive one day. Sorry to announce. It's built. It's built through small, consistent choices that no one else sees. Things like when you replace, “I'm not enough,” with “I'm learning.”

When you forgive yourself for what you didn't know back then, remind yourself that those were just patterns. were habits, old beliefs. They were moments of survival. They were learned responses, not your identity, not who you are, just things you did. They were the ways you tried to stay safe, to belong, to make sense of the world with what you had at the time.

But now you know more. And when you know better, you begin to choose differently.

You see, our brains are constantly rewiring. Every time you interrupt a negative thought and replace it with a compassionate one, you're literally carving a new neural pathway. It's called neuroplasticity, the science of how the brain changes with practice and repetition. So when you catch yourself saying things like, “I can't,” and you follow it with “I'm learning how.”. 

Or when you shift from, “I'm so dumb. I'm always messing things up,” to, “I'm practicing getting better.” You're not just changing your mindset. You're retraining your brain to support your healing. That's the antidote to negative self-talk. Awareness, interruption, and replacement. Catch it, pause it, and rewire it.

When you stop waiting for permission and start living like you belong in your own life, you move from survival to creation. And that's where transformation really begins. Becoming isn't about pretending. It's about training your mind and body to believe that it's safe to grow. It's safe to love.

It's safe to take up space and just be seen.

Every act of self-respect, every boundary, every honest conversation you have, it's a brick in the foundation of who you're becoming. Every small act of courage that brings you more, it brings more of you to the surface, to the top level. You don't find yourself. You remember who you've been all along.

Okay. Let me show you what I mean. Recently in one of my groups, I had everyone look around their space, their room and find everything that was green. Right? So, so people started scanning the room and they were locked in on plants and pens and pillows, even walls. And then I said, close your eyes.

And I asked, “now, tell me everything you saw that was red.” Suddenly, silence. A little frustration, annoyance, some giggles. Because they weren't looking for red. They were focused on green.

And when they opened their eyes and realized they'd been surrounded by red all along, a mug, I think someone even said, “I'm wrapped in a red blanket,” or the green blanket, a picture frame, a lamp. But what happened was their minds filtered it out. That's how the brain works. You can only see what you tell yourself to look for.

It's actually called reticular activating system or RAS or R-A-S. So it's a tiny network in your brainstem and it acts like a spotlight filtering millions of bits of information and only letting in what it believes matters to you. That's why when you start thinking about, let's say you want to buy a new Jeep, a white Jeep, suddenly you start seeing white Jeeps everywhere. Now, was it that overnight there was mass production, right? And they're everywhere? No, that's not what happened. They were always there. You just tuned your focus to notice them.

And the same thing happens with your thoughts and emotions. If you focus on what's missing, your brain will keep scanning for lack. But when you focus on what you want, love, peace, health, good health, confidence, purpose.

Your brain starts organizing itself to find and create more of that. That's not magic. That's alignment. That's neuroscience and energy working together. Your focus creates your experience.

Okay. Let's make this a mini session moment together. Here we go. Grab a notebook if you can, or just take a breath. And I want you to just visualize this, but I'm giving you a few seconds to grab a notebook. Okay. I want you to think of one big goal, not a checklist goal, but a becoming goal. Something that, something that lives in your heart.

Maybe it's, “I want to feel proud of the life I'm living, I want financial stability and freedom, I want to love myself so much that I stop settling.”

Whatever it is, that's your starting point. Okay? So write that down. And now imagine, or actually with your pen, draw, divide the page into four quadrants. Okay?

Quadrant one. I want you to now ask yourself, what's in the way? We're looking for constraints, right? What's in the way? Maybe old patterns, fears, limiting beliefs, distractions. Name them honestly. Not to shame yourself, but to see clearly. Because once you can see the pattern, you can change it.

Okay. Quadrant two. Here are your solutions. Okay. So for each constraint, I want you to write next to it. One possible solution. Not the perfect one. Just the next right step. Okay. So if the problem is, I procrastinate, speaking for myself. Okay. So the problem is I procrastinate.

Maybe the solution right next to it is to set one small daily action, or maybe I'm scared of failing, you'd write next to that. The solution is, let myself fail, small, and I'll learn from it.

Here's the thing, you need to know your constraints. You need to know what holds you back. But you also need to know your power.

Okay. Quadrant three. I want you to find the “why.” This is the story of my life. I'm always trying to figure out the why, but I need you to find and dig deep and grab some emotion in there. This is where the energy lives. This is where the magic happens. Okay. Choose one emotion you want to feel when this goal comes to life, right? Get crystal clear about how you want to feel.

Maybe proud, maybe alive, peaceful, maybe free. And then write that down because here's why. Emotion is fuel. This is why it's always bothered me. New Year's resolutions, right? Watching people just dream big and talk and talk about all the things they want to do. You know, what's the first thing? Why? I'm going to get in shape this year.

And by what, January 20th, the gyms are empty again, right? New Year's resolutions fade. Here's why. They come from the head and real transformation begins in the heart. So you've got to get crystal clear about how you want to feel. So ask yourself, why does this matter to me?

Right? I want to feel alive again. I want to build something that leaves a legacy behind where my children are proud of me. It outlives me. Or I am ready to finally step into my potential.

Your why is your anchor. That “why” is what keeps you going when the motivation fades. So dig deep and get to the bottom of how you want to feel. And finally, quadrant four, why now? This is important. Ask yourself, why now? Why is this timing sacred? Why does it matter for who you're becoming?

You see, when you link your growth to your purpose, it stops being a task and it becomes a calling.

This is the spiritual part, not mystical, but meaningful. It's the understanding that every breath, every decision is a chance to align with the person you're practicing to become. That's what I mean when I say portal, right? Not some cosmic doorway in the sky, but the moment that you choose awareness and you choose courage and intention.

So take a breath, look over all four quadrants and let them be your roadmap. Not just for today, not for, not just for 11 11, but for the year, maybe even for life. Because when you keep practicing love and peace and good health and purpose,

You stop chasing change. You become it.

So if you've been waiting for the right time to begin, today's your day. This is it. You're not late. You're right on time. This isn't just another date on a calendar. It's a reminder that every single day is a doorway, an opportunity to realign, to shift, to refocus, but more importantly, to return to yourself.

Let this be your beginning. Not a rushed start, but an intentional one. It's built from presence, purpose, and a quiet promise to yourself to keep showing up.

Because what you focus on expands. It's not magic, it's momentum. When your thoughts, emotions, and actions start moving in the same direction, life starts meeting you there. That's alignment. The sweet spot where psychology and energy flow together.

So instead of asking, when is this going to happen? Will it ever happen? Start asking, how can I live it today? That's where the transformation begins. It's not in the waiting, but it's in the practicing.

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Thank you for listening. Thank you for showing up for yourself and for choosing to grow with me. Until next time, keep aligning, keep practicing and keep unfolding. I'm your host and friend, Yvonne Wink.

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