In this episode I talk about what happens when your identity has been built on pain, pressure, and proving yourself… and then one day that fuel runs out.I break down how self-improvement can quietly turn into a persona and why life can feel flat when you’re no longer running on anger or a redemption arc. I also talk about the shift from striving to curiosity, learning how to be again when you’re not trying to perform your healing.

00:00 Intro02:15 Building an Identity Out of Pain06:40 The Self-Improvement Persona11:20 When the Anger Completes Its Cycle16:05 Forced Discipline vs. Curiosity 20:40 Being vs. Doing25:30 Let it Find You28:00 Curiosity & Love as Motivators

This episode dives into how our relationships mirror who we’re becoming — not just who we are right now. I talk about the psychology of attraction, how standards are really reflections of identity, and why dating apps started to feel flat.

This episode explores the psychology behind betrayal — what happens inside the mind, the defense mechanisms that rise, and how self-blame forms even when you tried your best to choose connections wisely.I talk about how the psyche digests emotional shock, why some people betray, and what it means to keep your heart open without losing yourself.

In this episode I translate my real time reflections about how your perceptions are a mirror to who you want to become, subjective vs objective reality, and God.

In this episode, I share what jiujitsu is teaching me about the mind, the body, and the inner world that shapes our performance.This isn’t just about BJJ — it’s about implicit memory, state-dependent thoughts, and the power of procedural intelligence.I explore how your identity shapes the patterns you see, and how your emotional state influences the meaning you assign to those patterns. If you’ve ever wondered why you self-sabotage when you’re tired, or why your performance changes with your emotional state, this conversation will help you see that:Your negative thoughts are not truth — they are a program you have kept feeding due to your state.And most importantly:Your objective doesn’t disappear just because your energy does.

In this episode, we dive into the emotional experience of envy — what it actually feels like in the brain and body, and why it shows up so often on social media. I break down how envy can highlight our deepest desires, the beliefs that hold us back from them, and how to work with this emotion instead of feeling shame around it. Envy is not a flaw — it’s a compass. Let’s understand it, integrate it, and use it to guide us toward who we’re wanting to become.

In this episode I talk about the feeling of longing and loneliness that comes up for me as I am desiring a relationship. I explain the process of maneuvering through this emotional terrain while still having self compassion. It's important to remember that despite feeling that longing for a partner, you still have all of the ability within you to cultivate the feeling of romance all on your own. I hope this video serves as a reminder of that.

In this episode I talk about how it's okay to not be socially "on" all the time. I used to match people in tone and expression and I realized it was ripping me away of my authentic self. It's okay to be you even if it's a mellow/drained expression of you ! (:

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In this episode I talk about a defense mechanism I developed as a child and how I use it on my own ego to be able to break free from fears that limit me. 

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I recently just moved to New York and have had to restart my life. In this episode I talk about how I have been learning how to be secure in myself while being alone in a new place. I explain some things I have done to help learn how to enjoy my own company. In addition to this I talk about some ways I have been practicing being my authentic self. 

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