You know the feeling. The relationship ended, but there was no closure. It was just silence, ambiguity and more questions, leaving your brain to frantically fill in the blanks. Your nervous system is in panic, unable to come to terms.

Welcome to the waiting room.

This week’s episode goes deep into one of the most disorienting experiences we go through: the aftermath of a relationship that almost was. The one you keep replaying. The person you can’t stop checking on. That never-ending hope that maybe they’ll come back.

Hope isn’t the bad, but it can hold us hostage. Because as long as you’re hoping, you’re not healing. And the person you’re grieving? You’re not missing the real, complicated, imperfect them. You’re missing the highlight reel of how amazing they were, the good stuff. A version that can never disappoint you because it only exists in memory now.

We also get into breadcrumbs, intermittent reinforcement, and the seductive lie that you could have saved it if you’d just been different or better. You couldn’t have. You cannot love someone into choosing you or doing the “work.”

This one I wrote for myself also- its honest, gentle, and might leave you a little tender. But if you’ve been sitting in that waiting room a little too long, I think you need to hear it.

🎧 Listen now wherever you get your podcasts. I hope you enjoy :)

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