I think you love your job more than you love me." With those exact words from my ex-husband 6.5 years ago,I hit rock bottom and began my journey from chronic workaholism to somatic regulation. In this raw, AA-style episode, I'm sharing the unhinged reality of what happens when your identity is entirely tied to what you produce.

Reflecting on the massive contrast between dysregulated Lindsey 10 years ago—starting my first career and marriage and redlining in the high-pressure consulting industry—and my grounded, engaged life today, I unpack why we become addicted to the external "pat on the head" at the expense of the people we love.

This episode introduces The Housed 9, a manifesto of nine essential life skills that double as work skills, designed to help high-performers step out of survival mode, regulate their nervous systems, and reclaim The Balanced Vision for their lives.

• The AA Realization: Workaholism is an addiction to validation, often baked directly into our family conditioning and corporate systems.
• The Performance Identity Trap: True value doesn't come from a busy calendar or a never-ending hustle; it comes from being present.
• The Power of Presence: Time is your only non-renewable resource. The ultimate gift you can give your team, your partner, and yourself is your undivided, regulated attention.

*** "Life just gets a little bit easier when we learn to let go."