In this episode of S*%! People Say, I’m explaining why I hate this seemingly innocent ask: “Can I pick your brain?” I know people have good intentions, but here’s why it’s a problem. 

Good intentions don’t always mean that the asker considers what’s in it for the other person. Oftentimes I see this ask from strangers on social media who haven’t done anything else to build a relationship. Some people are more than happy to chat with someone without expecting anything in return—but that’s their choice on when, for whom and how often. 

So what should you do if you want to ask someone’s advice? I’m sharing tips that I’ve seen work to increase your chances of forging a connection with someone you admire. 

If you like this episode, check out these resources.

• Podcast: Bad advice: finding mentors & coaches
• Podcast: Disrespect and boundaries
• Podcast: Genuine connection & straight talk w/ Amy Volas

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