The Four Horsemen (according to John Gottman) are:

1. Defensiveness

2. Stonewalling

3. _________

4. ________

The attitude behind both of these is putting yourself on a ______ self-righteous plane.

Matthew 7: 1-6

• Beam Research - looking at yourself _____

• “Do I do that?”

• “Have I done something similar?”

• “What’s my flaw?”

How Beam Research is like bad breath…

So does loving people more mean being honest less?

(But before you take this too far, read v. 6)